"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Disclosing Dating Info to Other Dates

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So I've been dating pretty frequently in the 6 months since my long-term relationship ended. Been going out with a lot of women, some of which I want to spend more time with, some I don't... you know how it goes. Most of this is through online dating sites.

I met this woman on one. We'll call her Sarah. We talked a little bit online first and she suggested we do something that night. I said that I am booked up all that week. Made the mistake of telling her that I was booked up with dates. A different girl every night until the weekend.

Anyway, Sarah and I finally went out (one of my dates bailed on me) and I feel like we had pretty good chemistry. No kiss, but I feel like I made it pretty clear I was attracted to her (touching, etc.).

Anyway, on the date she asked about "so what's it been like since your break-up, have you had any relationships?" She's also asked about how various dates went on different days when we've been texting.

I keep replying "a gentleman never tells." She thinks it's silly, and I admit I am teasing her a bit. Nevertheless, I think it's a good strategy... I already feel as if I'm on the precipice of "friend zone" with her. Besides it's none of her business right? I get the strong sense that she's more open about her previous relationships than myself.

Tonight I called and asked her out again. She said yes. She asked about tonight's date and I responded the same way. She said "You gotta open up to me a bit. There's nothing worse than unrealized expectations due to non-communication." Maybe I'm dense, but what does that mean???? Have I already been friend zoned by this woman after one date?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Zarky

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You're making the mistake that you think you have to answer honestly. Any time a woman asks you a question, it allows you to give her a response that will increase the likelihood that she will spread her legs for you.

Think to yourself: "What answer will be most likely to get her to spread her legs for me in the shortest amount of time possible?" That is the proper response and is how you should frame every question posited to you by any woman you're interested in.
 

compleks

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Keep it mysterious, she's definitely interested.

That's the thing with online dating. Dates will always ask about other dates you have been on...
Most of my dates used to come from tinder, and they always asked how I was finding it, if I had met many other girls etc etc. I just played it off and said that I had been lucky and didn't have any stalkers, yet. Then joked that they could be my first staker, or something like that.
Never divulge details, unless you have a funny/horror story about a date.
 

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Zarky said:
You're making the mistake that you think you have to answer honestly. Any time a woman asks you a question, it allows you to give her a response that will increase the likelihood that she will spread her legs for you.

Think to yourself: "What answer will be most likely to get her to spread her legs for me in the shortest amount of time possible?" That is the proper response and is how you should frame every question posited to you by any woman you're interested in.
I thought you were a female...?
 

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Dear 007,
Oh you are in like Flynn!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Zarky said:
You're making the mistake that you think you have to answer honestly. Any time a woman asks you a question, it allows you to give her a response that will increase the likelihood that she will spread her legs for you.

Think to yourself: "What answer will be most likely to get her to spread her legs for me in the shortest amount of time possible?" That is the proper response and is how you should frame every question posited to you by any woman you're interested in.
nice way to say something and means nothing....


op you are doing ok
 
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