"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Disclosing Dating Info to Other Dates

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So I've been dating pretty frequently in the 6 months since my long-term relationship ended. Been going out with a lot of women, some of which I want to spend more time with, some I don't... you know how it goes. Most of this is through online dating sites.

I met this woman on one. We'll call her Sarah. We talked a little bit online first and she suggested we do something that night. I said that I am booked up all that week. Made the mistake of telling her that I was booked up with dates. A different girl every night until the weekend.

Anyway, Sarah and I finally went out (one of my dates bailed on me) and I feel like we had pretty good chemistry. No kiss, but I feel like I made it pretty clear I was attracted to her (touching, etc.).

Anyway, on the date she asked about "so what's it been like since your break-up, have you had any relationships?" She's also asked about how various dates went on different days when we've been texting.

I keep replying "a gentleman never tells." She thinks it's silly, and I admit I am teasing her a bit. Nevertheless, I think it's a good strategy... I already feel as if I'm on the precipice of "friend zone" with her. Besides it's none of her business right? I get the strong sense that she's more open about her previous relationships than myself.

Tonight I called and asked her out again. She said yes. She asked about tonight's date and I responded the same way. She said "You gotta open up to me a bit. There's nothing worse than unrealized expectations due to non-communication." Maybe I'm dense, but what does that mean???? Have I already been friend zoned by this woman after one date?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Zarky

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You're making the mistake that you think you have to answer honestly. Any time a woman asks you a question, it allows you to give her a response that will increase the likelihood that she will spread her legs for you.

Think to yourself: "What answer will be most likely to get her to spread her legs for me in the shortest amount of time possible?" That is the proper response and is how you should frame every question posited to you by any woman you're interested in.
 

compleks

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Keep it mysterious, she's definitely interested.

That's the thing with online dating. Dates will always ask about other dates you have been on...
Most of my dates used to come from tinder, and they always asked how I was finding it, if I had met many other girls etc etc. I just played it off and said that I had been lucky and didn't have any stalkers, yet. Then joked that they could be my first staker, or something like that.
Never divulge details, unless you have a funny/horror story about a date.
 

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Zarky said:
You're making the mistake that you think you have to answer honestly. Any time a woman asks you a question, it allows you to give her a response that will increase the likelihood that she will spread her legs for you.

Think to yourself: "What answer will be most likely to get her to spread her legs for me in the shortest amount of time possible?" That is the proper response and is how you should frame every question posited to you by any woman you're interested in.
I thought you were a female...?
 

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Dear 007,
Oh you are in like Flynn!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Zarky said:
You're making the mistake that you think you have to answer honestly. Any time a woman asks you a question, it allows you to give her a response that will increase the likelihood that she will spread her legs for you.

Think to yourself: "What answer will be most likely to get her to spread her legs for me in the shortest amount of time possible?" That is the proper response and is how you should frame every question posited to you by any woman you're interested in.
nice way to say something and means nothing....


op you are doing ok
 
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