"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Disciplinary

Bingo-Player

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Boss called me in this morning told me she had been noticing I hadn’t been clocking out for lunch

Our time management system deducts 30mins automatically but if you want longer then you are supposed to clock out, I usually take between 45 & 50 mins and rarely bother to clock the extra 15-20 mins because to be perfectly honest I never thought anyone would notice

Im fairly new here and have been able to claim a basic level of ignorance claiming I thought it deducted an hour automatically , I do like my boss and she (did) like me

She’s said that this sort of thing is usually a disciplinary but as I am new she will give me the benefit of the doubt and let me off with a warning but I can tell she isn’t happy

I do feel quite bad because she is a easy going fair boss and I guess I was taking advantage

I don’t know now whether to just leave it there or own up apologise and try to clear the air ?

i should add Im on a temporary contract and I have a feeling I will need her goodwill in the not to distant future
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Duke

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Don't apologize. Don't admit fault. Claim ignorance and that you will do better next time. No need to paint your self into a corner and remove all doubt that you knew what you were doing.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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dasein

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Yeah, do what others say, don't mention it again. Don't bust your ass though. You just got a taste of craftily applied stick. Male managers are taught to do that to guilt you into going above and beyond and not pressing your workplace rights. Women don't need to be trained to do that, the stick comes naturally for them.
 
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