"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Disarming Other Obstacles aka, Guys who the girl I want brought...

Lil Magic

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Okay, here's the dilemma,

So, theres this girl who i talked about in a post earlier whom i cave manned on a bar room counter about two weeks back. It just so happened that last week she was also my daate for the freshman formal dance. Things went well and we ended up coming back to my dorm room and making out until the early hours of the morning when she had to catch the bus back to her dorm house (I know, i know, she should've slept over and done some stuff...but she, s a virgin and so am I, and trust me, i tried, but i think she thought we would've fcked if she had so she didnt wanna but herself into temptation...). So anyway, theres this party tonight at the dorm and she text me and ask what im doing tonight. Im hoping I can get her to come and maybe see where the night leads us.

UNFORTUNATELY however, she tells me she's coming with friends( who I think are at least, mostly girls...). They turn out to be guys...three of them, and they come with beer. She loves beer...so anyway, I wanna dance with her but the guys take turns dancing with her, and as a result, I get jealous and start to so that AFC internal thinking thing (as something that happened a bit earlier got me like that.). Is there anyway I could go about and disarm these guys and take the girl for my own??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Slickster

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If she's interested in you then why bring the posse of dudes?

I guess she might be trying to make you jealous but if that is the case then why bother?
 

King Turi

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**** that, she's already proving she's gonna grow up to be a wh0re.

Move on, bro.
 

Son of anarchy

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I think the same,an attention wh0re probably or even worse she is getting advice from her girl friends to see your reaction.
Probably the first one anyway.
 

ENIGMA16

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She doesn't sound too interested in you. You should've just went and flirted with other girls and made sure she saw you. Stop taking it so seriously.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Kailex

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You already failed.

She texted you "What are you doing tonight", just as she probably texted the other 3 guys. And then it became the battle of the AFCs.

You should have done what JLay said.
 
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