"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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well since this past semester started, ill be walking around with my girl whose very pretty and random dudes will give me some dirty look like i took there girl. Honestly i pay no attention to these guys besides when i catch em, ill just stare back at em until they get the idea but im wondering if thats the right thing now. its almost like im getting sized up and this dude is threatening me, but i get it a lot and only when my girl is with me. now dont get me wrong, me and my girl are good and we laugh about this stuff and im cool with other dudes checking my girl out. but is ignoring them the right thing to do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ositosucio

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danthemann said:
well since this past semester started, ill be walking around with my girl whose very pretty and random dudes will give me some dirty look like i took there girl. Honestly i pay no attention to these guys besides when i catch em, ill just stare back at em until they get the idea but im wondering if thats the right thing now. its almost like im getting sized up and this dude is threatening me, but i get it a lot and only when my girl is with me. now dont get me wrong, me and my girl are good and we laugh about this stuff and im cool with other dudes checking my girl out. but is ignoring them the right thing to do?
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correct. or in a funny way tell your girl... sweetie, may be i should invite him to a 3some?..
 
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danthemann said:
well since this past semester started, ill be walking around with my girl whose very pretty and random dudes will give me some dirty look like i took there girl. Honestly i pay no attention to these guys besides when i catch em, ill just stare back at em until they get the idea but im wondering if thats the right thing now. its almost like im getting sized up and this dude is threatening me, but i get it a lot and only when my girl is with me. now dont get me wrong, me and my girl are good and we laugh about this stuff and im cool with other dudes checking my girl out. but is ignoring them the right thing to do?
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Obviously, they're just envious. But, I don't think staring back at them is a good idea. That is issuing a challenge and playing a game of "chicken." That might be ok if you're a really big guy that would intimidate them. But understand that, to some extent, it's a trap. Some really angry, jealous mofo might actually be trying to start someting with you so he can humiliate you in front of your girl. Regardless of your size, why invite drama when you don't have to?

If your eyes meet, just look away TO THE SIDE slightly and move on. Looking up is an insult like an eyeroll. Looking down is a sign of submission (bad). Looking to the side is neutral.
 
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Unless the guys are being rude by leering or cat calling, I would mostly just ignore it. Staring at guys in the wrong environment (E.g. nightclubs, or anywhere that serves alcohol) could lead to a fight. However, if you feel like a guy is staring in an inappropriate way, by all means let him know non-verbally (staring back) that his behavior is rude.
 
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Michele l'Arcangelo

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ositosucio said:
correct. or in a funny way tell your girl... sweetie, may be i should invite him to a 3some?..
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I like using communication to subconsciously hint something or put an idea or image into someone's head very slyly. That being said, don't put some image of other guys' penises in her head.

Instead, play the guy off as gay.

"I'm not sure who's he looking at. But, there is no way it could be you with an ass like mine."
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yeah, well, I consider it a backhanded compliment when guys' neck hairs get raised in my presence. I'm the top dog, and you hate it.
 
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