Dirtbags?

[theguy351]

So the girl i have been talking about on here is a weird one lol. She apparently only hooks up with dirtbags, then gets attached and hurt by them. Well she likes me but it weirds her out that im not an dirtbag, like i dont do drugs,drink sometimes. I come off as a general good guy. She is apparently weirded out because i dont have a downfall, like in the movie fever pitch when they talk about the down fall in guy ....her friend sent me this on aim "ok you know how the girls talk about the guys that are perfect, but somethings wrong and they always have to have a downfall."

so apparently im perfect and that scares her lol.

also i said i was gonna sk her out to hang just us, she doesnt want to et cause weve only hnung out 3 times...i guess wehen ur 17 things are different that normal people.

 

[theguy351]

any comments?

 

[Play the Game]

lol

Yea, i do.. she's messed up! Stay Away.

 

[theguy351]

lol....idk if shes messed up tho, its just she has gone for dirtbags inthe past, so someone like me is off from what she normally goes for....but its not like that wont change, not like shes gonna only love dirtbags her whole life, ya know

 

[theunflushables]

Or secretly you are a dirtbag, and only she knows it! lol just kidding with you man.

However watch out on this one, because 1 in 3 odds that she leaves you for a dirtbag.

 

[theguy351]

yea, hopefully she will see that its better to be with someone who cares for you, than someone who is looking to screw you over.

 

[theunflushables]

Well, don't become an AFC and don't treat her like sh1t and you might have a chance. Good luck.

 

[theguy351]

whats an AFC?

 

[Play the Game]

lol....idk if shes messed up tho, its just she has gone for dirtbags inthe past, so someone like me is off from what she normally goes for....but its not like that wont change, not like shes gonna only love dirtbags her whole life, ya know

I assume a person with a bad habits will continue that bad habit, until proven otherwise, especially when they are scared to quit.
I think that you won't be able to provide her with enough excitement and drama as a dirt bag can.
Some women need that constant turmoil in their life, i call them messed up. You can try to prove me wrong though.

Anyone more knowledgeable about psychology could explain why she is "scared of him", i'm a little puzzled myself as to what this woman is thinking.

 

[theguy351]

i know PTG, i am puzzled as well...its weird....like she says she likes me and blah blah blah, but tells her friend its weird i dont have downfall that she cant see and i seem squeaky clean compared to her past "likes" (who are always dirtbags, drunk hookups and leave her ****ed up) and that that scares her..... it isvery puzzling....

 

[theguy351]

shes unfamiliar with the idae that a good guy thats boyfriend material, actually likes her...its a foreigne thing to her...shes only had ecxperieices such as :get drunk, hook up wit dirtbag at party, get attached because of hookup, then get crushed wen hes like, i was drunk and dont liek u....so i guess its not that shes into dirtbags, but their the only ones shes had experieices with in the past.....

 

[tmpgstx]

She be major LSE

 

[theguy351]

whats AFC and LSE mean?

 

[MrS]

Average Frustrated Chump. Nice guy bum who kisses her ass and does everything for her, basically.

 

[theguy351]

o ok...dont wanna be that....what does LSE mean?

 

[Play the Game]

...

LSE - Low Self-Esteem. Someone who you can tell lacks self-esteem either by action or words.

That girl is a LSE.

 

[theguy351]

ok....also it turns out she knows the dirtbags are no good for her...so that could push her even more towards me

 

[Interceptor]

She sexes the dirtbags because she doesn't want real intimacy from them.
Plus, the dirtbags are the ones who show her that they want to fvck her. So she's turned on by their flagrant lust (basically , little boys who know they want girls and aren't afraid of their testosterone) , but she sabotages the "relationship" because she knows they only want sex going in. So she can't start a "relationship" with dirtbags. So she can feel justified in horing. Most women need a reason to get themselves out of feeling responsible for their actions.
The bad thing is that this girl is only 16.
She's a little girl.
She get s attention from the dirtbags, then wants more than that. They won't give her attention, just sex. So she feels unowrthy of love and intimacy.
So here comes a decent guy and she's not ready for him. She makes HIM wait.
It sucks. But that's how it usually plays out.
Most boys will then naturally assume that the idea is to change themselves from being decent, and considerate, to just being a jack ass.
Which is wrong.
Now hold on...
You're saying "Yeah, but the jackasses get the pvssy."
Yeah, I know. I know.
But who are you then? I(MOnad or Henid)f your integrity isn't important, and you view females as semen receptacles, I can see your point.
But what if you don't have woman hating feelings yet?

Well, let's get to reality.
At 16, basically I was testosterone in a sneaker and jeans. Been there, done that. So were most of you too.
All my philosophy won't help a a young, dumb, and full of *** sex starved little boy.
After all, we do need sex to be truly sexually confident.
But you have to determine at what cost?

 

[Play the Game]

Well i think she's high on hormones and mistakes lust for love. I don't think she's the one sabotaging the relationship, i mean the dirt bag is the one who says he doesn't want anything to do with her.

But you are right, she wants the attention and lust.

 

[theguy351]

yes i hear you both.....Im not going to change, but hopefully she wants to because she knows the dirtbags are no good, so maybe i am the one who will make her realize its better to be with a real man