directing conversation flows

[dj_china]

I haven't been here in a while, but I just had just about the worst conversation in my life with an HB9 acquintance

HB9: hey I need to ask you a question
dc: nope
HB9: I'm going to ask you anyways. how was your semester abroad?
dc: blah blah
HB9: [more stupid questions]
dc: blah blah
HB9: [more stupid questions]
dc: blah blah
HB9: ok thankss [hug]

no escalation, no kino (except when SHE hugged me at the end)
also since she kept asking me questions she was controlling the flow of the conversation.

any tips on how I can redirect the flow of this conversation?

thanks,
dc

 

[ATP]

HB2: Hey I need to ask question
DC: Sure but first can you solve this riddle? If a mole can dig a mole of holes, how many holes can a mole of moles dig?
HB2: ???
DC: What was your question?
HB2.5: How was your semester abroad?
DC: It was pretty good, I saw a snail too.
HB2: Allright
DC: Did you know that snails can move with a pace up to 0.1 MPH? That's pretty impressive if you leave a long trail of slime behind you.
HB2: No I didn't know. So how long where you in X place?
DC: I was there about 2 weeks until a guy got hit by a boat and had to go to the hospital. The doctor says they may have to amputate his penis. That's awful... how would you feel if they had to amputate your penis?
HB1: ???
DC: I thought so. Well according to the maya indians who were the first to amputate penises in ritual purposes the pain might be mediated by eating coca leaves before the actual amputation. Have you tried cocain?
HB: Eh no..
DC: Well you should try it at least if you ever decide to amputate your penis.
HB: I'll keep that in mind.. *sneaks away*

 

[falconslax89]

HB2: Hey I need to ask question
DC: Sure but first can you solve this riddle? If a mole can dig a mole of holes, how many holes can a mole of moles dig?
HB2: ???
DC: What was your question?
HB2.5: How was your semester abroad?
DC: It was pretty good, I saw a snail too.
HB2: Allright
DC: Did you know that snails can move with a pace up to 0.1 MPH? That's pretty impressive if you leave a long trail of slime behind you.
HB2: No I didn't know. So how long where you in X place?
DC: I was there about 2 weeks until a guy got hit by a boat and had to go to the hospital. The doctor says they may have to amputate his penis. That's awful... how would you feel if they had to amputate your penis?
HB1: ???
DC: I thought so. Well according to the maya indians who were the first to amputate penises in ritual purposes the pain might be mediated by eating coca leaves before the actual amputation. Have you tried cocain?
HB: Eh no..
DC: Well you should try it at least if you ever decide to amputate your penis.
HB: I'll keep that in mind.. *sneaks away*

???

 

[ATP]

It was a rather stupid example to show that if you want to control the flow of the conversation then you need to bring up something interesting or odd that she might find interesting. However if she allready have interest in your vacation then stay at that topic until it has lost its impetus.

A bad example might be:

HB2: I really want to travel to France as well. Tell me how it was when you were there. Did you go to the Louvre?
DC: Yeah I did... nice weather we have got here.

A better example:

HB2: I really want to travel to France as well. Tell me how it was when you were there. Did you go to the Louvre?
DC: Yeah I did... [Talk about the experiences for a while then start asking her questions about her interests in art]

The one who is asking the questions direct the flow of the conversation, however sometimes it's good just to talk if she is very interested in the subject.

 

[dj_china]

hm yea I guess if she enjoys the topic its good to stay on it -- but at the end, its still only chit chat, which leads to friend zone

I guess the way I look at it is...if its a conversation she could have with her girlfriends, then it's not the right kind of conversation I want to be having. see what I mean?

 

[Proselytiser]

Reframe the question!

I saw a girl about 30 mins after I'd met her and talked to her a bit. When I saw her the second time she says 'ohhh noo you shouldn't smoke! why do you smoke?'

What do you expect me to say? 'Oh, when I was 14 I thought it'd be pretty cool. Now I just can't stop.' That is one way to a boring conversation... talking about emphesema with a potential love interest? No.

I said 'Damn, you're intrusive. So I'm hungry. Been to Hungry Jacks before?' [A fast food place here, she was not from Australia. I was standing outside it]

We sat down started eating and talked about something completely different...

 

[Allurre]

That was terrible. lol.

If you want to take charge of the conversation direction, you need to be the one asking the questions. Not to forget, interject playfulness, wit, tease when appropriate.

 

[Amazing]

HB9: hey I need to ask you a question
dc: No I won't have sex with you
HB9: WHAT, lol? I'm going to ask you anyways. how was your semester abroad?
dc: Why did you ask me for permission to ask this silly question? I thought you'd ask about that 12 year old corpse laying downstairs
HB9: Whaaaaaat?
dc: A good thing about having corpses around, I mean sex is constant, except you have to warm them up in a tub, but you can't get STDs!
HB9: *slowly reaches for the mace*
dc: Anyway, anytime you want me to rape you, just pretend you are passed out and i will
HB9: ok thankss [hug]

 

[zekko]

HB9: Hey, I need to ask you a question.
DC: I'm not allowed to answer any questions because I'm suppose to lead all interactions so you will be attracted to me. I will have to ask you questions instead.
HB9: Umm. Okay, go ahead.
DC: I can't ask you any questions right now. I'm going to act disinterested in you so you will be attracted to me. *Walks away*

Sometimes this pickup stuff is very silly.

 

[Jhcl4000]

HB9: Hey, I need to ask you a question.
DC: I'm not allowed to answer any questions because I'm suppose to lead all interactions so you will be attracted to me. I will have to ask you questions instead.
HB9: Umm. Okay, go ahead.
DC: I can't ask you any questions right now. I'm going to act disinterested in you so you will be attracted to me. *Walks away*

Sometimes this pickup stuff is very silly.

YOU FORGOT KINO! BAD PUA!

 

[zekko]

YOU FORGOT KINO! BAD PUA!

Damn! No wonder it didn't work.

 

[Waking Up]

Her asking questions is an IOI don't overthink it. Just give her generic responses and not too much information to keep yourself as a mystery. There's nothing wrong with them asking questions, it's a sign that they're interested and trying to keep the conversation going. Let them do that role if they must.

 

[Amazing]

Her asking questions is an IOI don't overthink it. Just give her generic responses and not too much information to keep yourself as a mystery. There's nothing wrong with them asking questions, it's a sign that they're interested and trying to keep the conversation going. Let them do that role if they must.

OMG, so true.


Just today I was at Subway, and the girl making sandwiches was asking me all these questions!
she asked me "what kind of sandwich do you want?"
then "what kind of bread?"
"toppings?"

I mean, talk about INTERESTED!! I of course was playing it cool, like I've got 5 other plates making me sandwiches all the time. I couldn't kino over the whole counter, but I still told her "hey, is that Subway shirt made by a designer? Gucci, prada?" she didn't know what to say so I quickly negged her saying "oh well, its sort of nice anyway"

I think she wants me. She was telling me to come back again and all. Damn it feels to be a gangster

 

[zekko]

Just today I was at Subway, and the girl making sandwiches was asking me all these questions!
she asked me "what kind of sandwich do you want?"
then "what kind of bread?"
"toppings?"

So did you sandwich close?

 

[Amazing]

I kiss closed the hell out of it.


btw, just signed up for zecco trades, hook me up!!

 

[Kailex]

So did you sandwich close?

I just hope he follows the 3 day rule after he S-closed. Don't be too available. It'll reek of desperation... and black olives.

 

[Amazing]

Nah, I am using jealously routine, going to Quiznos across the street. Got 'er in a bag!

 

[Kailex]

Yes, very good, you should always spin more sandwiches.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

I haven't been here in a while, but I just had just about the worst conversation in my life with an HB9 acquintance
HB9: hey I need to ask you a question
dc: nope
HB9: I'm going to ask you anyways. how was your semester abroad?
dc: blah blah
HB9: [more stupid questions]
dc: blah blah
HB9: [more stupid questions]
dc: blah blah
HB9: ok thankss [hug]


no escalation, no kino (except when SHE hugged me at the end)
also since she kept asking me questions she was controlling the flow of the conversation.

any tips on how I can redirect the flow of this conversation?

thanks,
dc

You have to ask HER questions, FLIRT, and add EMOTION into your conversation, in the form of stories, humor, etc.

Your ONLY mistake with this conversation was NOT TRYING to have a conversation.

Btw you should have totally busted on her for asking so many questions...
"If you want to interview me, we'll have to set up a lunch date. No further questions please. "

 

[zekko]

btw, just signed up for zecco trades, hook me up!!

Buy low, sell high.

I'm not affiliated with them that I know of, but maybe you could see if I can get a commission.