"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There's this girl that I know that I'm attracted to. I don't really mind if she doesn't like me back, since we can just go on being friends and all that, but I don't want to just go in there and mess up when I don't have to, either. So is it a good idea to just go up to her while we're talking one day and say something like, "Listen, we hang out a lot and I like you, so I want to get to know you better. It's no big deal if you don't feel the same way but we can go get a drink sometime," etc., etc.

Or would it just be too upfront and obvious? I don't think it really matters as long as you're sincere, but who knows.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DarkChaos said:
"Listen, we hang out a lot and I like you, so I want to get to know you better. It's no big deal if you don't feel the same way but we can go get a drink sometime, etc."
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Second sentence = deal breaker

At first you sound uber confident. Then you say the second sentence and you destroy any progress you just made. You're backing out on yourself, so you can stay "safe". Well, staying "safe" won't get the girl in the sack for you, so don't say that! Instead, say "Listen, we hang out a lot and I'm attracted to you, so I want to get to know you better. Give me your number and we can talk over coffee." Much better.
 
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If you were an HONEST guy you would realize that you are not really friends with her, and that any attempts at friendship with a girl you like is pure folly.:nono:
 
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