Dippin in the company ink...twice

[sstype]

I work with this younger girl at a restaurant. We have hung out twice (made out the second time) but we decided to just pseudo-date. Kinda like we're friends but we would still go on dates.

Now here is the problem...
I grabbed her ass playfully today at work and she told me one of the coworkers got mad at me and wanted her to tell a supervisor.

Now this is where its going to get complicated...
We agreed that we could date other people. The relationship between us is superficial at best. She is always working and thus we hung out only twice in the past month. Plus she is very insecure around me and we hardly talk at work.

Another girl at work, she's very beautiful and is relationship material, she likes me as well and I want to date her. But with what just happened I am very hesistant. I'm afraid what will happen is if I end up dating the second girl, the first one may end up getting jealous and then end up accusing me of sexual harrassment. Keep in mind this is at a casual restaurant.

My gut is telling me to not date the second girl, no matter how great she may be. what do you guys think

 

[brucevangeorge]

Soooo. You ****ED UP BECAUSE YOU GOT WITH A GIRL AT WORK?

And now you ARE GOING TO DO IT AGAIN?


AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!



I think it is a marvelous idea. Go ahead. If it didn't work before. Do exactly the same thing and it will definitelly work eventually.

 

[sstype]

 

[sstype]

bump...and intelligible responses please

 

[MacDiddy]

but we decided to just pseudo-date

You mean "we" as in HER!!!

 

[sstype]

You mean "we" as in HER!!!

That's not even the freaking point. I know she likes me so thats completely irrelevent to my question...

 

[Chosen1]

why does everybody need somebody to tell them what to do i know that is not the point to the question but the best answers we come up on our own i'm the type of guy that always likes more then one girl so i would pursue the relationship with the other girl and deny everything by saying i would not cheat on anybody or even do anything of the sort that's just me

 

[MacDiddy]

That's not even the freaking point. I know she likes me so thats completely irrelevent to my question...

But it is... If its true then she has control. And you can twiddle your thumbs waiting for nothing..

 

[brenbaus]

do this the smart way, keep hitting on chicks at work, make them all uncomfortable around you, then the whole workplace can be weird, yeah, that sounds wonderful to me!

 

[DJDamage]

My gut is telling me to not date the second girl, no matter how great she may be. what do you guys think

Listen to your gut.

Sarge elsewhere for another chick.

Have you ever stayed awake at night because two alleycats were fighting and hissing at each other outside your window?! well its the same thing with women. If they run into each other and know about each other, the sh1t could hit the fan.

Its best to keep the women you are dating in your life seperated and as far away from each other as much as possible.

DJD

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Well working at a restaurant isn't exactly executive suite at Microsoft, so who cares. Just date her. If you get fired, find another restaurant to work at.

"Company ink" only matters when you're working at a career job.

 

[Serialized3]

yeah man, oh jesus i've dated or hooked up with 6 girls at my work (work at a natural foods supermarket) ...haha, yeah and it DOES tend to get weird when things go south... got 2 girls that completely ignore me and 2 that want to still get back with me (but thats not gonna happen)

but hey im quitting the job next month and going back to college... too smart to be an apple stacker all my life and take orders from some 30 year old low manager twerp...

 

[Magnatolia]

Well, if you read between the lines of all the crap everyone's posted, they're telling you that you shouldn't go with the second girl.

Sorry everyone, but I'm not a fan of the 'don't dip your pen in company ink' bs. So long as you're smart about it there's no problem. Unfortunately by grabbing her ass in front of everyone, they may not know you two are actually dating and from their view, it comes across as harassment. Although if she was into you, wouldn't she have stuck up for you???

As for the second girl, you could handle it by telling her upfront that you've just broken off with the first girl due to her not willing to put in the effort. And try to keep any obvious physical contact out of the office. Keep that for your break or outside of work hours.

 

[flexion_]

I'd say go for the second girl in your situation. You need to find out for yourself how this will end up.

 

[Tomatoes]

The person who told the girl to tell the supervisor at work is a complete c0ck and needs to chill the fvck out.....C+F always happens at work with little flirts and stuff....

Dont worry about that bit.

As for sarging both girls. Cut off with the first before you move on the second......you dont get to see her enough and its effecting you blah blah blah.....

Then leave it a few days and game the new girl. Dont worry about being fired over it. Do it OUT OF WORK and they cant say ****......so what if its a co worker.....aslong as you act professional at work you will be fine.

 

[sstype]

seriously, some of you guys lack basic reading comprehension.

but to everyone else that actually offered advice, thanks. The first chick is going to destin for a week. Knowing how strict her parents are and her busy schedule, I know she's gonna be letting loose at the beach, one way or another.

I can work on a better prospect in the meantime