"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dinner tactic

DavenJuan

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So if you really want to have a great time and show your girl out a nice evening, i think this is pretty smooth...

before you go out for this "special occasion".. pick the upscale restaurant.

call ahead they day before or morning. tell the owner/manager that you have your ccard number and you want him to keep it on file. you may have to fax a copy to them.

tell them you can authorize it for x amount of dollars and set up a 15 or 20 percent gratuity on the overall bill. make sure you have the restaurant know to send you the copy of the check to your address and not give it to you at the restaurant since its already authorized for x amount

tell them what your girls name is and make sure the server calls her by her name when you two sit down at your "designated" table. i nice touch is to have flowers or something and card already present.

at the end of dinner and ****tails get up and leave. the bill is already being mailed to you

it is a something really simple to do, but it also comes off so smooth and well thought out.

...any one do anything like this before. IMO it is money!:up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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joekerr31

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ummm, maybe if you've been with a chic a long time and she's already established herself as being worthy of such attention.

otherwise it sounds like a lot of work and i can't see it really impacting what she thinks of you.

the reality is that on first, second or third dates she's goign to be in to you based on how physically attracted she is to you and how you handle yourself in conversation.

in my opinion its so bloody easy to get a woman interested in you via conversation over dinner that putting in all that extra work seems unnecessary.
 

Phyzzle

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Agreed. You know how we say "keep things from getting stale" in a long relationship? This would be one way to spice it up. Not so good for getting to know someone.
 

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I would do this for a rare, great girl.
Definitely not just because I wanted to get laid.
 

DavenJuan

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i thought it would be a given not to assume it would be for a second third date kinda thing.

this idea is geared towards the LTRs. sometimes things get stale and repetitious. after you have been to dinner 6,789 times trying something like this is a bit different.

i would never do something like this to "impress" a girl i just met for the obvious reasons. to be honest, i dont think i would even be doing a dinner date with a girl i just met. i think there are so many other ideas and ways to get to know each other then just chatting over dinner.

however, for you all in LTRs or who have been in one, i think this is a great idea to do something different. i am always looking for great ideas.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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