"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dinner Invitiation

CosMoenTropic

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Hi

If a girl you've just met asks you want dinner on so-and-so weekend and whether you are busy, and you say yes, whats that considered? I was just thinking of a friend-to-friend get to know each other night, but it was brought up out of nowhere in the middle of our convo. BTW I'm just a average guy in the looks department, so I want to be as smooth as possible. I just want her to be comfortable, and most importantly, for me to be comfortable.

The truth is, I'm no real DJ. I don't get caught up in most of the AFC moves/mistakes, but I also don't take the DJ initiative often enough.

Whats the best advice? I'm not looking for mechanical directions, just some buddy advice.. Ive been a noob with girls in college if you can't tell already. Had lots of regrets, but hey.. ..First step in the right direction. :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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