Dinner confusion/issue

[dogizzle]

So I met this girl in one of my classes and following the class we got dinner. Didn't get her number but it went well. We went to get dinner another time but when we were entering the cafeteria, she had to get changed.

So I got my food and took a seat. After a bit, she didn't join me. Whether she didn't see me or not. Which seems odd as we talked together on the way there. Eventually I walk around the building and I see her sitting with a friend(girl) who seems to be dressed up to. I'm not sure if she saw me so I just went back my place and eventually joined some of my friends.

After my friends and I finished eating, I went over to her(she was by herself now) and said(along the lines) "oh, must of missed you, I was down there, see you (next class)".

Now I don't know what to think, it could have been an honest mix-up as it can be hard to find people in the cafeteria or something else.

 

[Syrio]

There's no "confusion." She went off on her own because she either dislikes you and/or thinks she can treat you like dogshiat. She knows she has you waiting around, like a puppy dog.

My advice: Drop your balls and say to hell with her. Ignore her. If she treats you like dogshiat, you treat her the same way. It's the Golden Rule.

Haha I agree with you Espi, though I think you may have worded it a bit strongly lol... idk if she dislikes you but she probably isn't particularly interested. If she were, she most likely would have found her way to you.

Dogizzle, what did she say in response when you said "oh, must of missed you, I was down there, see you (next class)"?

 

[dogizzle]

Haha I agree with you Espi, though I think you may have worded it a bit strongly lol... idk if she dislikes you but she probably isn't particularly interested. If she were, she most likely would have found her way to you.

Dogizzle, what did she say in response when you said "oh, must of missed you, I was down there, see you (next class)"?

I'll give more story. She waited for me at the end of class and we talked all the way there. She had to change so I said something along the lines of "ok, I'll be inside". The place is shaped like a doughnut and can be a pain to find people in. So I sat down in the middle of the donut where she was in line for food so like 10 yards from her. I assume she looked around as I saw her walk around to the other side. So after clearing my dishes I saw her and said "must of missed you, I was down there, see you next class". I'm not really sure what she said but I think it was something along the lines of "see you then".

 

[dogizzle]

Also what should I do in class(free seating) if
a. she sits next to me
And after class

 

[Syrio]

I'll give more story. She waited for me at the end of class and we talked all the way there. She had to change so I said something along the lines of "ok, I'll be inside". The place is shaped like a doughnut and can be a pain to find people in. So I sat down in the middle of the donut where she was in line for food so like 10 yards from her. I assume she looked around as I saw her walk around to the other side. So after clearing my dishes I saw her and said "must of missed you, I was down there, see you next class". I'm not really sure what she said but I think it was something along the lines of "see you then".

Based on what you wrote here I really think it seems like she's not really into you, sorry bro :/

What I would do is basically just kind of ignore her. Don't initiate any contact with her and just be neutral to her. Don't ACT neutral, but genuinely BE neutral. Go after other girls. Stop caring about this one. This is not only the best way to move on, but it is the best way to get her interested. However, really don't focus on getting her interested. If I were you, I would assume she's not interested and never will be (which is probably the case). If that changes in the future then great but for now I'd say forget her, move on to the next one.

That's just my opinion but I think most of the people on here will agree with me.

 

[jay07]

Classes just started so i assume you met her recently, you shouldve got a number close, how you managed to get her to agree to din date before # is odd. But heres what you do.

Go to class a little early, find an attractive chick with open spot and sit close to her. When your flaker decides to show up, she'll either sit next you, or in the same spot she sat last time. If she sits next to you, small conversation about her day, then make small talk with the other chick. Introduce yourself before flaker shows up so its not forced. If she doesnt sit next to you, smile at her if you notice each other than start a convo with the other chick.

Then never worry about flaker again, unless she comes up to you proposing something, than get the number. Easy peezy.

 

[dogizzle]

Classes just started so i assume you met her recently, you shouldve got a number close, how you managed to get her to agree to din date before # is odd. But heres what you do.

Go to class a little early, find an attractive chick with open spot and sit close to her. When your flaker decides to show up, she'll either sit next you, or in the same spot she sat last time. If she sits next to you, small conversation about her day, then make small talk with the other chick. Introduce yourself before flaker shows up so its not forced. If she doesnt sit next to you, smile at her if you notice each other than start a convo with the other chick.

Then never worry about flaker again, unless she comes up to you proposing something, than get the number. Easy peezy.

Well walking back from class the first time she asked me where I was headed and I asked if she wanted to get dinner. This time we were also walking from class and I thought she was going to head back to the dorm but then she sortof caught her self and basically said lets go to dinner at the cafeteria.

 

[Uncharted]

Wait for her to contact you. If you see her say Hi and that's it. If she doesn't reach out then you confirm that she's not interested.

In the meantime, since you are on a college campus, flirt with other girls. It's like shooting fish in a barrel on a college campus bro!!

 

[jay07]

Oh i missed the part u had dinner before.

So, she was with a friend, you went to eat with your friends. You finish, you go back to where shes at. And shes still sitting in the same spot but by herself? How much time went by?

She probably just didnt see you the first time. If she offered dinner shes probably interested, but you should have got her digits the first time. Id try it one more time with her. Sit next to her and this time get her number. Dont bring up what happend though.