This new trend will soon be added to dating sites throughout the land. The cool new feature basically measures how truthful a person's profile is, incorporating syntax, sex word count, I, ME statements, negative word counts, inconguencies, fact & verifications (marital status, residence, height, employer, etc). Digital Deception Detection will flourish very quickly but lying is nothing new. Like most things in life it all comes down to CREDIBILITY.
The truth about lying may not surprise you at all, we all stretch the truth from time to time. Lies/deception/cover-ups have been around since the beginning of time , so much so that it has become widely acceptable. One of the biggest contributing factors has been the media. It has brought lying into the spotlight and don’t we just love it when someone of authority, fame, power, status, etc has a transgression. Some lies are given little attention while others may have huge repercussions.
Lying is everywhere and has increased in recent years. Any time you see a surplus growth, someone is right there trying to cash in on it. Games like Bolderdash and the Shocking truth (to name a few) have added to the popularity of deception acceptance. TV shows/movies portray infidelity/deception to be very enticing (the pretender, cheaters, short lived series on FX “the riches”, etc). Anytime you cheat, lying will soon follow. Despite Hollywood’s attempt to curb deception (fatal attraction, swim fan, hand that rocks the cradle, Lie to me, etc) it seems we prefer to lie.
WHY DO WE LIE-there are numerous reasons why people evade telling the truth;
1) SELF-ESTEEM: a person who is suffering from low self worth often fantasizes about being someone of importance. Winning the lottery, being the boss, being famous, etc. They often embellish, exaggerate various aspects of their life.
2) CONVIENIENCE: it’s often easier, faster, Spares feelings ,avoids confrontation if you are in a hurry or can’t be bothered.
3) FEAR: avoiding fines, jail time, being in the spotlight, consequences, arguments, detection, etc.
4) PERSONAL GAIN: we lie in order to reap the benefits (elections or influence potential voters, greed, land that job, sex, addictions, etc)
5) HABIT-we learn to lie by age 4, most people lie 3 times in a 10 minute conversation, bombarded with deception in the media ( Government officials, athletes denying use of performance enhancing drugs, actors/artists infidelity, gay/lesbians coming out of the closet, scandals, investment frauds, disclaimers on medications, hidden fees phone companies/credit card industry, online profiles, etc).
6) TO RIGHT A WRONG-sometimes investigators (government/authorities) use deception to gain access to the truth in order to save a life, rectify a situation, solve a mystery, etc
Men and women lie equally, a few lies that are commonly used are known as white lies (does my butt look fat in these jeans, have you ever been fired from a job, lets do lunch, wasn’t that amazing) in these examples telling the truth all the time can be exhausting and few people will appreciate your boldness, they may even get offended (Tucker Max movie “I hope they serve beer in hell" is a great example). Volunteering TMI (too much info) could rule you out of that job you were interviewing for or land you in hot water with your lover.
Yes in an ideal world honesty is the best policy as it is easier to recall the truth than to remember which lie you told to which person.
Some infamous lies in history include; Nixon “I am not a crook” speech, President Clinton’s “ I did not have sex with that intern”, various athletes using drugs, Billionaire investment cons, Milli Vanilli Lip sinking, artists/actors coming out of the closet about their sexual preferences, Martha Stewart, various religious leaders, etc.
ONLINE: men tend to lie about their age, height, income, marital status whereas women lie about body mass (weight), age, what they are truly seeking. We tend to lie more on the phone rather than in emails, Its far less frustrating suspending your dis-belief than assuming everyone is lying about something.
The truth about lying may not surprise you at all, we all stretch the truth from time to time. Lies/deception/cover-ups have been around since the beginning of time , so much so that it has become widely acceptable. One of the biggest contributing factors has been the media. It has brought lying into the spotlight and don’t we just love it when someone of authority, fame, power, status, etc has a transgression. Some lies are given little attention while others may have huge repercussions.
Lying is everywhere and has increased in recent years. Any time you see a surplus growth, someone is right there trying to cash in on it. Games like Bolderdash and the Shocking truth (to name a few) have added to the popularity of deception acceptance. TV shows/movies portray infidelity/deception to be very enticing (the pretender, cheaters, short lived series on FX “the riches”, etc). Anytime you cheat, lying will soon follow. Despite Hollywood’s attempt to curb deception (fatal attraction, swim fan, hand that rocks the cradle, Lie to me, etc) it seems we prefer to lie.
WHY DO WE LIE-there are numerous reasons why people evade telling the truth;
1) SELF-ESTEEM: a person who is suffering from low self worth often fantasizes about being someone of importance. Winning the lottery, being the boss, being famous, etc. They often embellish, exaggerate various aspects of their life.
2) CONVIENIENCE: it’s often easier, faster, Spares feelings ,avoids confrontation if you are in a hurry or can’t be bothered.
3) FEAR: avoiding fines, jail time, being in the spotlight, consequences, arguments, detection, etc.
4) PERSONAL GAIN: we lie in order to reap the benefits (elections or influence potential voters, greed, land that job, sex, addictions, etc)
5) HABIT-we learn to lie by age 4, most people lie 3 times in a 10 minute conversation, bombarded with deception in the media ( Government officials, athletes denying use of performance enhancing drugs, actors/artists infidelity, gay/lesbians coming out of the closet, scandals, investment frauds, disclaimers on medications, hidden fees phone companies/credit card industry, online profiles, etc).
6) TO RIGHT A WRONG-sometimes investigators (government/authorities) use deception to gain access to the truth in order to save a life, rectify a situation, solve a mystery, etc
Men and women lie equally, a few lies that are commonly used are known as white lies (does my butt look fat in these jeans, have you ever been fired from a job, lets do lunch, wasn’t that amazing) in these examples telling the truth all the time can be exhausting and few people will appreciate your boldness, they may even get offended (Tucker Max movie “I hope they serve beer in hell" is a great example). Volunteering TMI (too much info) could rule you out of that job you were interviewing for or land you in hot water with your lover.
Yes in an ideal world honesty is the best policy as it is easier to recall the truth than to remember which lie you told to which person.
Some infamous lies in history include; Nixon “I am not a crook” speech, President Clinton’s “ I did not have sex with that intern”, various athletes using drugs, Billionaire investment cons, Milli Vanilli Lip sinking, artists/actors coming out of the closet about their sexual preferences, Martha Stewart, various religious leaders, etc.
ONLINE: men tend to lie about their age, height, income, marital status whereas women lie about body mass (weight), age, what they are truly seeking. We tend to lie more on the phone rather than in emails, Its far less frustrating suspending your dis-belief than assuming everyone is lying about something.
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