"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Difficult decision (hardest i've come across)

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Hey all. I'm in some conflict and hope I can get some helpful advice.

So i have an ex, girl 2. I met another girl 1 at a party with girl 2 six months ago. We were chill and got along great. Winter break i came home for break and was no longer with girl 2, and girl 1 told me before i dated girl 2, girl 2 had slept with girl 1's boyfriend while they were dating, thus, they are no longer together. I then hung out with girl 1 for a while and returned to school. We talked quite a bit for 3 months until now.

I've spent literally everyday with her this spring break and have gotten quite physical with her. However, I will be returning to college soon. In all honesty, i really care about this girl and she is more perfect than any girl i've ever met. However, i feel like she clings onto her ex (dated for 4 years but he cheated), she even was upset the other day and told me she felt guilty cause he still wants her. I didn't know what to say. We both really like each other but I am unsure if she is able to do this relationship if I go back. I know she needs that freedom, so it'll be a tough decision. Advice is greatly appreciated guys...
 

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bowlsey said:
Hey all. I'm in some conflict and hope I can get some helpful advice.

So i have an ex, girl 2. I met another girl 1 at a party with girl 2 six months ago. We were chill and got along great. Winter break i came home for break and was no longer with girl 2, and girl 1 told me before i dated girl 2, girl 2 had slept with girl 1's boyfriend while they were dating, thus, they are no longer together. I then hung out with girl 1 for a while and returned to school. We talked quite a bit for 3 months until now.

I've spent literally everyday with her this spring break and have gotten quite physical with her. However, I will be returning to college soon. In all honesty, i really care about this girl and she is more perfect than any girl i've ever met. However, i feel like she clings onto her ex (dated for 4 years but he cheated), she even was upset the other day and told me she felt guilty cause he still wants her. I didn't know what to say. We both really like each other but I am unsure if she is able to do this relationship if I go back. I know she needs that freedom, so it'll be a tough decision. Advice is greatly appreciated guys...
Its sort of hard to decipher your post, are you using the numbers in place of letters? (i.e. met this 1 girl at a party etc) or is Girl 1 a name? I'm guessing the latter but its just a little difficult

Sounds a little like ur a shoulder to cry on....have you read any on the DJ Bible dude? Sorry if my advice isnt that great, but I'm new

The bold is you putting the girl on a pedestal, which is bad. Ahem anyway....if I understand correctly ( might not) you were seeing a girl who still has feelings for her ex?? Next her
 

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bowlsey said:
So i have an ex, girl 2. I met another girl 1 at a party with girl 2 six months ago. We were chill and got along great. Winter break i came home for break and was no longer with girl 2, and girl 1 told me before i dated girl 2, girl 2 had slept with girl 1's boyfriend while they were dating, thus, they are no longer together. I then hung out with girl 1 for a while and returned to school. We talked quite a bit for 3 months until now.
The girl 1 maintains the same speed and velocity and girl 2 is retreating going 25 mph. If my calculations are correct, they will collide and meet at point C at approximately 1300 hours.

haha jk. Man you worded this in a way to sound like a math question.

But to get back to your original topic,

bowlsey said:
I've spent literally everyday with her this spring break and have gotten quite physical with her.
It seems to me as tho you are spending too much time with this girl. You are making yourself too available.

bowlsey said:
In all honesty, i really care about this girl and she is more perfect than any girl i've ever met.
You are putting way too much value into this girl and putting her on a pedestal. She's just a girl, another one out of the millions out there. Stop thinking that she is this perfect being.

bowlsey said:
However, i feel like she clings onto her ex (dated for 4 years but he cheated), she even was upset the other day and told me she felt guilty cause he still wants her.
Did they break up recently? If they did, I highly doubt that she is looking to jump right back into another LTR. You might be just the rebound guy to get her mind off her ex and to give herself an emotional boost. Also, if shes talking to you about him, you are walking a fine line on the friend zone or being used as an emotional tampon.

bowlsey said:
However, I will be returning to college soon.
so if you're leaving, whats the point in this? Long distance relationship hardly ever work. Go to college and find some girls there to bang.


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