"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Crazy Asian

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Our society has changed so much over the years. For example, back in the day, "chubby girls" would be thought of as more attractive than skinny girls because it meant that they were wealthy enough to eat. I mean, out society basically forces what we view as attractive.

It's the fact that I've seen so many AFC's in my school that have girls left and right. Since girls are conditioned to think a certain way about romance by these books and movies, they begin to think and believe that that is what a perfect guy should be like. They have adjusted their barbaric views of attraction.

The reason being is that for the past week, i made a bet with my female friend that i would be nice to everyone for a week. (no making fun of people, no racism, just no being mean in general) And for the last week, i've gotten so many more people to like me. 3 girls that used to hate me, now talk to me alot, and now a gay guy has a crush on me (eww).

Now i'm NOT saying to become a total AFC and suck up to girls, but maybe just tone down that jerk attitude, and be real, down to earth, and genuinely nice.

Thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've seen so many AFC's in my school that have girls left and right.
How do you know they are AFCs?
Do you even know what one is?

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isn't this the bi-curious guy that posted about being in love with a homo that owed him a BJ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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no i'm not bi, and
yes i can tell if a guy is AFC most of the time.

my racism is ok though, i'm only racists against asian people.
i'm not REALLY racist, but i joke about stereotypes of certain races.
 

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shouldnt this be in High School section?

Anyways, society always conforms to what is made the norm. Look at fashion throughout the centuries, mating rituals, following of religion. You have two choices as someone who realizes how society follows the norm

1) Rebel against the norm
2) Learn how to make the society work in your benefit
 
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The Don Juan forum has become the High School forum :moon:
 

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I think OP made a good point. I've noticed more "AFCs" as defined in this forum, have more success than many people I know who follow the "DJ" tactics. However, I'm sure I'm drawing observations of AFC's success from a much bigger pool since there's so many AFCs and a lot of them don't have success too.

But I do think tactics can be misused and misunderstood. You shouldn't just read a tip or tactic, then apply it blindly in every situation. And I have noticed that women and men both have it ingrained in them by society how a guy is suppose to act toward women (funny how women don't have any requirements placed on them). People can get offended and label you a jerk, mean, arrogant or whatever. People are basically insecure and read into things and exaggerate their meanings. It's easy to over do it, and it's not bad advice to suggest tapering it down to a minimum.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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