"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Different types of openers

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Fender

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Hey guys, need a quick opinion on something..(lol)

Apart, from the infamous "opinion opener," what other good opener types do you guys recommend me using? I could only think of the folowing atm:

The neg opener (e.g. you gotta piece of lint on your shoulder)

The compliment opener (e.g. I came over to talk to you because I noticed you had a wonderful energy)

The "hi" opener (Hi, my name is X)

Theres gotta be more ways to open a set...a little help here pls.

-fender-
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I_Only_Live_Once

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Good question
 
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THE_ADDMAN

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observational opener.


prop opener.
 
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Gonzalo

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IMHO "Hi, my name is X" sucks.

Check out bristollair.com, they have a bunch up, if you're into PUA stuff.
 
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"Hi my name is X" is a vibe opener

Read their vibe, and walk in obeying the situation.

Everybody's dancing, walk up dancing
Everybody's laughing, walk in laughing
Everybody's quiet, walk in quiet

Just have confidence when you open, don't be desperate for them to accept you into your frame. Be confident and approach their frame... AS THOUGH YOU'VE KNOWN THEM FOR YEARS.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Here are some i like to use...

Situation: you are with a group of friends talking, and you and a random girl make eye contact in a bar, wait until it happens again and then wave her over, put your arm around her or something and introduce her to your friends as your girlfried. Adn then make up some bull**** story about how you think she is cheating on you and that you're going to break up with her tonight.
- most girls will play along and say, "ya, i was meaning to tell you about that"
- some girls may not even come over, if you're ballsy go over an introduce you to her friends as your boyfriend
(no my material, can't reme,ber who to give credit to)

OR
"who do you think lies mre girls or guys? opener I would usually start off with "hey my friends and i were ahving a discussion over here" blah blah
(con't remember again who to give credit to)
 
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Goofy Bastard are you serious, that is the lamest sh1t Ive ever heard. I cant imagine any social situation where that would work.
 
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