"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Different kind of shyness

BrocKing11

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Its funny when i started this whole thing, i was afraid of the approach i couldnt do it to save my life. But now i have that part under control, approaching is not the problem for me. My problem is making the moves and knowing when to make to moves during dates. Everyone posts subjects about how to approach and what to say to get her to go out with you, etc. but if anyone could give advice or refer me to any articles about know how/ when and what works when your out on a date, and how to become more confident in that regard, it would be much help.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BrocKing11

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basically knowing when and and what types of kino to use, and when shes ready to be kissed.
 

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Kino is a subtle art, don't go crazy with it. If she makes a joke, laugh and touch her on the sholdour. If you want her attention, touch her lightly on the arm.

One way i find out if a girl is ready to be kissed is saying something like "you have really soft hair" or some **** and running my hands through it, If she doesn't back out she's kinda there, lean in and if she doesn't run off, you're in.
 

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As far as the kiss goes, this is what I like to do. At the end of the date, or some other appropriate time, give her a hug. Then loosen your grip, look down into her eyes, and smile. Shift your gaze down to her lips, then back up to the eyes. If you're feelin the vibes, go in for the kiss. This has always worked for me.

Just for the record, I got that approach from someone else on this forum, but I don't remember who so sorry for the lack of credit.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Craig Reeves

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As far as the kiss goes, this is what I like to do. At the end of the date, or some other appropriate time, give her a hug. Then loosen your grip, look down into her eyes, and smile. Shift your gaze down to her lips, then back up to the eyes. If you're feelin the vibes, go in for the kiss. This has always worked for me.

Just for the record, I got that approach from someone else on this forum, but I don't remember who so sorry for the lack of credit.
It's alright, my man. :) I'm just glad that you used my kiss test technique out there in the real world and made it work for you. Isn't it a wonderful wonderful technique? Good thing because I came up with that technique on accident! lol.

Anyway, the best time to ever make a move is in a high point of conversation...like when the two of you seem to be having the most fun with each other. THAT's the best time to do it. A kiss doesn't always have to be at the end of the date. You can use the kiss test at anytime she is on a high. In some cases, it can even be at the beginning of a date if she starts on a great high.
 

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do a search about "adapting mindset"

once you accomplish this, you will be able to make up YOUR OWN techniques, which will work WAY better than anything anyone else came up with, because everything you do will be tailor fitted tothe situation, not a default action that may or may not work.
 
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