CuddleJunkie
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 9, 2015
- Messages
- 769
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- Age
- 33
Those of you who have been reading the **** I say since I came here will have noticed a common trend in almost all of my posts. I always refer to my "over-alphaing", being too cold, too aloof... I'm overcoming this, for recently I confronted this problem of mine face to face.
The thing is, the 80% of guys who come here (totally just made that number, but somewhat close I guess), come from a beta/2nice place. And so, the usual advice is to become more alpha, more aggressive, more assertive, to have a more powerful frame...And this is completely normal, this is the advice those guys need. Now, there are other guys who are naturally more aggressive, have a more powerful frame per-se. The reasons for this I don't know, call it DarkTriad, call it HighTest, call it however you like to call it, but recognise that it is a thing. Guys like that need a different type of advice: smile more, be more fun, ramble around in conversation instead of taking the interaction as a battle, make the girl feel safe, etc.
How did I come to terms with this? I met a guy that some would call a natural, he certainly has little game and ****s up a lot of times by coming from a place of validation, but he has teach me something. We would be out and would approach some girls, and he would say the most ridiculous **** ever, things that didn't make any sense, and that sometimes would be counterproductive, but the interaction was fun as ****. I started to copy this type of approaching and interacting by osmosis, by just being with him, and so I found the funny side of game.
So I guess this was a bit of a vent, or an updating in my journey, each month I'm happier and suaver. So if you are a guy such like me, naturally gloomy, kind of indifferent to normal interactions, make your best to try and find the fun side of this, because it is FUN.
The thing is, the 80% of guys who come here (totally just made that number, but somewhat close I guess), come from a beta/2nice place. And so, the usual advice is to become more alpha, more aggressive, more assertive, to have a more powerful frame...And this is completely normal, this is the advice those guys need. Now, there are other guys who are naturally more aggressive, have a more powerful frame per-se. The reasons for this I don't know, call it DarkTriad, call it HighTest, call it however you like to call it, but recognise that it is a thing. Guys like that need a different type of advice: smile more, be more fun, ramble around in conversation instead of taking the interaction as a battle, make the girl feel safe, etc.
How did I come to terms with this? I met a guy that some would call a natural, he certainly has little game and ****s up a lot of times by coming from a place of validation, but he has teach me something. We would be out and would approach some girls, and he would say the most ridiculous **** ever, things that didn't make any sense, and that sometimes would be counterproductive, but the interaction was fun as ****. I started to copy this type of approaching and interacting by osmosis, by just being with him, and so I found the funny side of game.
So I guess this was a bit of a vent, or an updating in my journey, each month I'm happier and suaver. So if you are a guy such like me, naturally gloomy, kind of indifferent to normal interactions, make your best to try and find the fun side of this, because it is FUN.