Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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squatting: how many of you put the bar on your traps vs on the post. deltoids? i cant find the sweet spot for the posterior deltoids-i always feel like im going to give birth withthe weight crashing onto my back that far behind...any advantages of either?

deadlift: ppl say to squeeze glutes to lift up the weight while keeping the back tense the entire time-thats how the back grows. is the back supposed to be sore the next day (if soreness kicks in, that is) then, or fatigued during workout? some people made it seem like i do it wrong if my back is sore since "im lifting with my back"

row: while i was doing some pendlays, this older dude told me that i should really be using a belt if i do that exercise, and that he was speaking from experience; also he stated that i might not feel it now, or this year, or next year, but in the future i might feel some pain. i did notice my lower back a little sore/fatigued DURING the lifting...would not using a belt be dangerous in the future?

thanks!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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High bar puts more emphasis on the quads.

Low bar puts more of the weight on the hips, hamstrings, and glutes. Most of squatting power is those muscles. This is how powerlifters do it. It's how I do it especially since it's more comfortable to me.

What will cause more pain in the future is getting dependent on the belt and not allowing your core to develop naturally. Proper form and it's safe.

Hell I had a guy in the gym blame WARMING UP for why he injured his back. Sigh.
 

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kickureface said:
deadlift: ppl say to squeeze glutes to lift up the weight while keeping the back tense the entire time-thats how the back grows. is the back supposed to be sore the next day (if soreness kicks in, that is) then, or fatigued during workout? some people made it seem like i do it wrong if my back is sore since "im lifting with my back"
Focus on bringing the hips forward. If you get sore, it will be in the glutes/hamstrings/upperback/traps. The only thing the lower back does is staying rigid against the load. There's no movement from the lower back during the whole lift.

row: while i was doing some pendlays, this older dude told me that i should really be using a belt if i do that exercise, and that he was speaking from experience; also he stated that i might not feel it now, or this year, or next year, but in the future i might feel some pain. i did notice my lower back a little sore/fatigued DURING the lifting...would not using a belt be dangerous in the future?
Ask him to give you a reason why you shouldn't do it. Why will it hurt? How will you hurt yourself? Things like: it will hurt eventually, I can't tell you why, but it will, 10 years from now. Seriously, why do you even mention such kind of talking here?

It's normal that your lower back gets sore during a pendlay row. The lower back is horizontal with the floor, which is a very stressing on the lower back. Focus on getting your back strength up using deadlifts & you'll be ok on the pendlay's. As long as your lower back stays straight you'll be ok.
 

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stronglifts r u sure, cos when i deadlift its really my lower back where i feel it....is that wrong? i thought it was supposed to work out that area..
 

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your lower back should be worked whether you do deadlifts or rows. they hit the entire back complex to one extent or another.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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IrishDJ said:
stronglifts r u sure, cos when i deadlift its really my lower back where i feel it....is that wrong? i thought it was supposed to work out that area..
Your knees extends. Your hips extends. What does your lower back do? Nothing. Just staying rigid during the whole lift. The weight on the bar tries to bend your back. But you're not (if you're deadlifting the way you should at least). This is what builds a strong lower back: the weight trying to bend your lower back, but you holding your back straight against the load.

If you feel in your lower back:
-you're pulling back with your lower back vs. bringing your hips forward.
-you're not extending the knees, but doing everything from the hips
-you're not keeping the bar close enough to you
-you're not using your glutes
-etc...

Great question, you just gave me an idea.
 

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ok..i understand the form or so i think, and i do think i keep my lower back rigid, but after the lifts, i can still feel thats the place that has been worked the most!

and another question in relation, is it wrong to have sore muscles the following day, or even 2 days after you have worked on a particular area, eg. quads.
 

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Check your form first. If it's ok, you just have a sore back. Depends on your experience too.

Soreness happens. Just don't make soreness the goal.
 

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strong is right... with the dead lifts you shouldn't feel it in your back.. I was doing it incorrect technique at first, and then one of the older powerlifters at my gym, MADE me learn the r ight technique.. If you do it right, only your a$$ and thighs should be sore. As well as the occasional bleeding on your shins.
 

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IrishDJ said:
ok..i understand the form or so i think, and i do think i keep my lower back rigid, but after the lifts, i can still feel thats the place that has been worked the most!

and another question in relation, is it wrong to have sore muscles the following day, or even 2 days after you have worked on a particular area, eg. quads.
as for the soreness, make sure your getting enough BCAA'S and L-Glutamine ... at least 10grams of both a day.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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blackbelt2k said:
strong is right... with the dead lifts you shouldn't feel it in your back.. I was doing it incorrect technique at first, and then one of the older powerlifters at my gym, MADE me learn the r ight technique.. If you do it right, only your a$$ and thighs should be sore. As well as the occasional bleeding on your shins.
bleeding?!
 

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blackbelt2k said:
If you do it right, only your a$$ and thighs should be sore. As well as the occasional bleeding on your shins.
Exactly..I've been tearing my shins apart with deadlifts. My shins get red and sore, and once I tore the skin. Any recommendations?
 

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Exactly..I've been tearing my shins apart with deadlifts. My shins get red and sore, and once I tore the skin. Any recommendations?
Well i've been wearing long socks lately on my deadlift days.. but try to picture me in my converses(cause of the flat bottom) and knee high socks... yea, the stares from the chicks are AMAZING in the gym.. sometimes i just wear long sweats though.
 

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Mr.Positive said:
Exactly..I've been tearing my shins apart with deadlifts. My shins get red and sore, and once I tore the skin. Any recommendations?
I wrote a full article about it on my blog. It's not yet posted but here are some recommendations:

  • Protect your shins: I wear long pants to deadlift/power clean & pull my socks up.
  • Choose another bar: some bar have more aggressive knurling than others.
  • Get closer to the bar & push from the heels. The bar shouldn't hit your shins.

It also depends on your body type (long legs vs. short legs, long torso vs. short torso). Some have it more than others. Some don't have it at all.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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spesmilitis said:
stronglifts said:
-you're not extending the knees, but doing everything from the hips
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Can you elaborate on this?
Kind of a stiffed-legged deadlift. If you start with your hips high & straight legs, your back gets all the load.
 
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