Difference between s*** test and HB being upset?

[The LadyKiller]

Is there a discernible way to differentiate the two, outside of obvious circumstances? I usually assume it's always a sh*t test to try and knock me off my center, so I won't change my behavior. Sometimes I'm right and I gain a HB's respect, but sometimes I'm wrong as well and the HB will entirely cut off from me without so much as a explanation. Very inconsistent results.

This comes up because I was talking to an HB a few weeks ago who I know somewhat well, I make a teasing/joking comment to her about something innocuous, which was funny and she chuckled. She then jokingly said she I was dead to her with a little smirk. Funny haha, right? You can probably figure out since I'm posting here that she hasn't spoken to me since. I crossed paths with her last week, said hi, she doesn't even make eye contact and says "I'm not talking to you" as she keeps walking.

Because I'm stubborn and still think it's a sh*t test, I haven't said or done anything else, and have been talking to other girls as I should be. But how long are these sh*t tests supposed to last? A few weeks for the HB to be fully committed to it seems like a long time.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I wouldn't care. She doesn't talk to you anymore? So what? If she has any problems, it isn't your fault. She probably just wants you to beg her to tell you what is wrong. If she says that she doesn't want to talk to you then so be it, she doesn't have to.

 

[The LadyKiller]

I wouldn't care. She doesn't talk to you anymore? So what? If she has any problems, it isn't your fault. She probably just wants you to beg her to tell you what is wrong. If she says that she doesn't want to talk to you then so be it, she doesn't have to.

You're probably right. I made the post because this isn't the first time it has happened to me and I always wonder if I'm missing something or if the HB is looking for the approval she's never going to get.

 

[Serenity]

That is not a sh!t test. I've done this, looking like I thought it was funny, smirked and pushed the other person away leaving them clueless. Because inside I thought "what a fvcking idiot", but since I don't waste my anger on idiots I laugh and walk. It's an ultimate mindfvck, but I feel massively in control doing it like that.

She could possibly have done exactly that. With that kind of time and that kind of response when you finally see her it's safe to say she's not joking, now she thinks you're even dumber.

The only way to tell the difference is by never losing track of context and her frame. This one is lost, good luck on the next one.

 

[Poon King]

Who cares?

Are you f*cking her? Until you are.. none of this non-sense is worth analyzing.

If you're already f*cking her then keep doing it. Men don't need to analyze every move a woman makes. It reeks of beta insecurity.

If she stopped talking to you completely.. then the reason why doesn't really matter. I focus my energy on women I'm sleeping with and women who I'm gaming. When a woman becomes non-responsive I shift my attention to something else. The more you analyze a woman the more you play into her games and her frame. Stay in your own world and only give women attention when they enter it.

 

[bigneil]

It's really simple - offer her a date and then wait until she pursues you. If she doesn't, the problem self corrects.

The issue here is OP is trying to convince a girl who doesn't feel attraction to feel attraction. It can't be done. The only ways to increase her attraction are: be hotter, attract women she thinks are hotter, or make her have an orgasm.

 

[dude99]

You're probably right. I made the post because this isn't the first time it has happened to me and I always wonder if I'm missing something or if the HB is looking for the approval she's never going to get.

If you were just busting her chops in fun and this was her reaction then it sounds like she is either moody or a spoiled brat that is used to getting her way.

If she meant it and "you are dead to her," then next her and never have anything to do with her. Withdraw 100% attention. Do not reach out ever or ever again.

If it is a $#!t test then she will come back.

If not....what did you say that would possibly get her to hate you so much?

 

[The LadyKiller]

what did you say that would possibly get her to hate you so much?

Nothing. We root for rival college teams who were playing one another (neither of us went to the respective schools). We both like to tease one another, and I'm the more passionate fan of our teams in this rivalry. I tweaked part of her school's chant as a joke - nothing crude or disrespectful, just that my team would beat hers. This is all it took to prompt her response - which included a jab towards my team of her own. I feel her cutting me off is undeserved. It is what it is and I'll talk to other girls, but I don't feel I did anything egregious.

 

[Trump]

This comes up because I was talking to an HB a few weeks ago who I know somewhat well, I make a teasing/joking comment to her about something innocuous, which was funny and she chuckled. She then jokingly said she I was dead to her with a little smirk. Funny haha, right? You can probably figure out since I'm posting here that she hasn't spoken to me since. I crossed paths with her last week, said hi, she doesn't even make eye contact and says "I'm not talking to you" as she keeps walking.

Because I'm stubborn and still think it's a sh*t test, I haven't said or done anything else, and have been talking to other girls as I should be. But how long are these sh*t tests supposed to last? A few weeks for the HB to be fully committed to it seems like a long time.

A girl who you haven't slept with spits out a few words and your mind goes into a tail spin. What would happen if she let you touch her and then said something? You would jump off a cliff!

If you are not sleeping with her, be glad she is not talking to you. If are sleeping with her, tell her there is no need to talk while having sex so it's all good. PhD work, right guys? Brutal.

 

[dude99]

Nothing. We root for rival college teams who were playing one another (neither of us went to the respective schools). We both like to tease one another, and I'm the more passionate fan of our teams in this rivalry. I tweaked part of her school's chant as a joke - nothing crude or disrespectful, just that my team would beat hers. This is all it took to prompt her response - which included a jab towards my team of her own. I feel her cutting me off is undeserved. It is what it is and I'll talk to other girls, but I don't feel I did anything egregious.

Then she is an immature spoiled brat that can't handle not having her way. Next her

 

[CMNILS87]

Dude.....drama queen. Ignore.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

A sh!t test will generally be non-verbal. For example, ex-communication, a dirty look, flirting elsewhere, being difficult, etc. She won't be upset, she'll just act up. It generally means she doesn't really care.

A girl who is genuinely p!ssed off will be more vocal, expressing her concerns in intimate personal settings, and probably quite specific about what she's thinking. It generally means she does care, at least a bit.

 

[Ratiocinative]

A **** test is because she wants to see your strength. Women are attracted to a man's strength, mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, whatever. Women **** test 1) because they suspect you are weak and want to test you, or 2) they want to experience your masculinity so they can become aroused. Just like you become aroused when your woman dressed up in a sexy dress and makeup, she gets aroused when she gets to experience your strength.

I don't think this is a **** test, sounds just like bad behavior, but it doesn't matter whether it is a **** test or not. Just display your strength and leadership as a man. If you just met her, then sure, ignore her because that's a bad first impression, but you said you know her kinda well so I assume you have or want to go out with her? Any form of pouting should be met with an opportunity for her to express her feelings like an adult, and if she chooses not to then tell her to come back and talk to you when she's ready to be an adult. Something along the lines of "Obviously you're upset but I can't read your mind. I'd like to see you again, but only if you're going to tell me what's wrong. Pouting and the silent treatment is juvenile behavior".

Women are emotional, they have estrogen, and they need time to build up some trust in you to open up and share their feelings. A woman's feelings are very fragile compared to a man's and they won't open up right away, that's just reality. That doesn't excuse their behavior, it just means that you will have to deal with it to some degree with every woman you date. You should at least give her a 2nd chance if you like her because that's part of a man's job in the male\female dynamic, turn big problems in to little ones. The vast majority of women can be turned from a bad mood into a good mood in just a few minutes if you just listen to her, acknowledge how she feels, and maintain a strong masculine presence. If you next every woman on their first offense you'll never develop the conflict resolution skills you'll need for when you do have a long term relationship with a woman you really like.