That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I quit soda for about a whole year. I just had some today cuz it was diet, and it was the only thing in the fridge besides water.Kerpal said:Diet soda has lots of chemicals and whatnot. Have you ever tried quitting soda? After a few weeks, you won't even want one anymore.
Same here. I just stopped buying sodas altogether and I don't have any craving for them really. I have one every now and then, maybe one a week and that's it. Problem is, people drink soda and other high fructose corn syrup beverages as their MAIN drink rather than just as an occasional treat.Kerpal said:Diet soda has lots of chemicals and whatnot. Have you ever tried quitting soda? After a few weeks, you won't even want one anymore.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Sweetened ice teas are no better than sodas. Still loaded with HFCS. Cheap??? No way a 99 cent can is the same price as a full 2 liter bottle soda.Chaotixxx said:I personally replaced soda with Arizona tea. I drink 1 or 2 of those 99 cent cans a day. Its a cheap and good tasting alternative IMO.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
better: brew your own green (or white) tea, and don't bother sweetening it.Chaotixxx said:I personally replaced soda with Arizona tea. I drink 1 or 2 of those 99 cent cans a day. Its a cheap and good tasting alternative IMO.
I drink nothing but water but my piss is still yellow.Bling said:If you piss any color other than clear (except the first piss in the morning), you got problems.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.