"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Didn't call me

DonAlan456

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So, its exam time for my school.
This girl and i had plans to study and that i would text her last thursday and shed get bak to me.
So she never texts back.
when i see her sat night at this party im like what the hell why didnt u get bak to me and shes like o i never got ur text and she told me to text her again.
Sunday i completely forget, monday and tuesday i dont have my phone.
On tuesday night i get home and on facebook shes like "still no text" i reply tht ill call her the next day.
Wednesday i call her and she says well study on friday but shell get bak to me thursday.
Thursday she says she has a tutor itll 2 bu shell call me then.
I dont see her friday and after the exam at 11 i end up going to this other girls house with her friend who i might think might like me and the first girl never ends up calling me.
SO... i know i messed up by telling her to call me.. but.. what happened?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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DonAlan456 said:
So, its exam time for my school.
This girl and i had plans to study and that i would text her last thursday and shed get bak to me.
So she never texts back.
when i see her sat night at this party im like what the hell why didnt u get bak to me and shes like o i never got ur text and she told me to text her again.
Sunday i completely forget, monday and tuesday i dont have my phone.
On tuesday night i get home and on facebook shes like "still no text" i reply tht ill call her the next day.
Wednesday i call her and she says well study on friday but shell get bak to me thursday.
Thursday she says she has a tutor itll 2 bu shell call me then.
I dont see her friday and after the exam at 11 i end up going to this other girls house with her friend who i might think might like me and the first girl never ends up calling me.
SO... i know i messed up by telling her to call me.. but.. what happened?
Here's what you did wrong as far as I know ...

1. No txting, just call her; make it short and to the point

2. Cmon man, you can't act like you care that much. She's supposed to be the one to bring it up, and then you say something like "oh that's right, you didn't .." (like you just remembered because it wasn't a big deal)

3. Unless she acutally had a tutor .. she's flaking. You two had plans to study and now she's busy on the day that she was supposed to confirm.

I like to use the strike system. Three strikes and I will next. I'd give her one strike for being busy for when you two had planned to talk, and then another for never acutally going through with hanging out. Next time she ****s up, just stop talking to her and let he initiate.
 
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