Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Did you surprise yourself when you first starting DJing?

iCatch

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i was shocked when i started using kino for the first time. the reactions were great. every girl i used kino on felt comfortable with it and are comfortable with touching me back. i had no idea how much potential i had! i wish i was more confident a couple of years ago because i had so much going for me. i was just too hesitant to ever do anything
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Jaggs

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Yeah I was kinda shocked also.

I was always good at conversation/humour and getting people to like me, so I was really half way there. I had also just come out of a pretty AFC 18 month relationship. So luckily like most the guys here I didn't have to start my climb ALL the way down from the bottom, learning social dynamics with literally zero experience. Once I started applying some basic foundations of attraction I found EVERY single person I communicated with (Chicks/guys/co workers/managers/random people) responded to me a lot better.

I have changed my state of mind and people around me have changed their view on me. It's wonderful.
 

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I was worried they'd get offended or wierded out when I started doing it, so I made sure to gesture with my hands while conversing first, so it didn't seem too "out of the blue," but more a natural extension of my established manner.

On the upside, they all seemed comfortable with it, to my surprise. Unfortunately, "comfortable" was as good as it got. I must not have been sexual enough with it because their response was always pretty bland. I go for the shoulder or arm first, then move to the hands; haven't got further than that yet.
 

DJ Shaka

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Wolf said:
No, I was a nervous ****, I tapped them on the shoulder like I was punching them. They jumped out of their skin, I was like "sorry for scaring you" then I just froze up and asked if they went there often (we was at a one off event, no worse time to say that huh?) Stuttering the whole way through, then I walked away whilst they were still talking because I was embarassed. Lmao.
LMAO
 
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