"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Did you surprise yourself when you first starting DJing?

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iCatch

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i was shocked when i started using kino for the first time. the reactions were great. every girl i used kino on felt comfortable with it and are comfortable with touching me back. i had no idea how much potential i had! i wish i was more confident a couple of years ago because i had so much going for me. i was just too hesitant to ever do anything
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah I was kinda shocked also.

I was always good at conversation/humour and getting people to like me, so I was really half way there. I had also just come out of a pretty AFC 18 month relationship. So luckily like most the guys here I didn't have to start my climb ALL the way down from the bottom, learning social dynamics with literally zero experience. Once I started applying some basic foundations of attraction I found EVERY single person I communicated with (Chicks/guys/co workers/managers/random people) responded to me a lot better.

I have changed my state of mind and people around me have changed their view on me. It's wonderful.
 
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I was worried they'd get offended or wierded out when I started doing it, so I made sure to gesture with my hands while conversing first, so it didn't seem too "out of the blue," but more a natural extension of my established manner.

On the upside, they all seemed comfortable with it, to my surprise. Unfortunately, "comfortable" was as good as it got. I must not have been sexual enough with it because their response was always pretty bland. I go for the shoulder or arm first, then move to the hands; haven't got further than that yet.
 
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No, I was a nervous ****, I tapped them on the shoulder like I was punching them. They jumped out of their skin, I was like "sorry for scaring you" then I just froze up and asked if they went there often (we was at a one off event, no worse time to say that huh?) Stuttering the whole way through, then I walked away whilst they were still talking because I was embarassed. Lmao.
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