"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Did you make the best choice in past relationships

hithard

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Heres a question I want to put out there.Did you go into past ltr, even though the woman you were hooking up with did not meet all your expectations or criteria??.And did any of those things come back to bite you later on in the relationship??.

Did she do things at the start that you knew might be trouble but thought you could change it down the track?.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheTrimReaper

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My last ex, I'm sure you all know who I'm talking about at this point, was the best....absolutely the best for the first year. After a year (@6 months living together), she snooped through my journal. I was a few words away from bouncing her. I can't believe I didn't. I should have trusted my emotions then. Things did get better, and were great(not perfect like the first year) but great for another year and a half. The last year was a rollercoaster.

Hithard, I don't think one should ever try to change a woman. If she's fat, don't date her. If she smokes, well that's up to you. If you find out something is wrong, you are going to be the one who has to deal with it. I dated a girl for a short time right after I broke up with the ex. She was cute, and on our second date, I looked down to see her toe ring. When I did, I swear the smell knocked me out. It was repulsive. I wasn't as in to her after that, and it screwed up the whole dynamic.

Do your thing, and if they want to be around you, they will. Trust your emotions. Trust them please. They are there for a reason, and if you don't like what your feeling, something is definitely wrong.
 
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hithard

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Hithard, I don't think one should ever try to change a woman
Exactly they change back.Makes you wonder if those little things you look over at the start come back to haunt you.
 

penkitten

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thats the very first time i ever heard a man say that he tried to change a woman. usually its the other way around.
 
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