"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"Did you get a new outfit?"

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Hey, I'm a girl, lol.. just so u know.

Anyway, do guys noramlly notice stuff like new outfits on girls? Or if they do, do they normally comment on it or just not say anything? Cuz this guy that i like noticed i had on a new outfit at work the other night and thats what he said: "Did u get a new outfit or something?"

He also asks me basically everytime i see him what my plans are for the night, like he'll say "So, got any plans tonight?" or "doing anything good tonight?" But its not like hes trying to ask me out i dont think, because whenever he asks that, im always leaving from work, and hes always staying.

So idk, any comments? Does noticing new clothes mean anything?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I notice a new outfit but if i just met a girl all the outfits are new to me :D, it doesnt mean anything other than he pays attention to what you wear or he thought it was really nice or really ugly
 

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I think it really varies from guy to guy. I'm a very visual and aesthetically-aware person so I notice stuff like that a lot, but I know a guy who's the total opposite and didn't even notice when his long-haired girlfriend got five or six inches cut until his gf practically spelled it out for him. So the significance of a guy noticing and commenting on a new outfit varies from guy to guy.
 

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Has he asked you out...?

No....?

"Maybe he's just not that into you".


There's a neat book on the subject, check it out.


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OMG And to think that I used to think that girls were such relationship gurus. I always thought that men were great at running the world and inventing stuff, but girls had us beat when it came to relationships...... but over the last year or two I've realized that women are almost as clueless as we are.

Where do women get these crazy ideas that men want to be their friends. Let me say this in caps so you can bury it deep into your brain.

MEN DON"T MAKE CONVERSATION WITH WOMEN THAT WE ARE NOT INTERESTED IN.

IF WE COMPLIMENT YOU, LOOK AT YOU, OR TALK TO YOU, WE WANT YOU. WE DON'T GIVE MIXED SIGNALS, PLAY GAMES OR WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND.

At my job there are 3 people that work the cashier at the cafeteria at different times....... a guy, a sixty year old lady, and a hot little 19 yr. old. On Mondays the only one I ask how her weekend went is the 19 yr old hottie. I could care less about the other 2.

So let me make this short and sweet...... HE WANTS YOU!!!!! :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MEN DON"T MAKE CONVERSATION WITH WOMEN THAT WE ARE NOT INTERESTED IN.
pls don't listen to this crap . Those are only guys who live to get laid. Other than that many guys that have it all together would talk to a gal they are not really interested in and just be social.

My advice is look at his eyes and the way he talks to you . Maybe he is into you maybe not. Talk to him about something and see how he responds . Wear something smaller like new cool ear rings and see if he notices that too .

Maybe he is into you and doesn't wanna get involved with you because you work together.

And no noticing new clothes doesn't mean anything necessarily. It only means that he wants to make you feel good . (i do that all the time mostly when i see something i like on a woman i tell her)
 

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OK I'm not talking about some lame guy making some lame convo about the weather.

Believe me if he's noticing what you are wearig than he's interested...... or he's a gay fashion designer who hates guys that only talk to chicks to get laid.

If you were 300 lbs and the only clothes big enough to fit you were a queen sized bed sheet.......... do you think he would be commenting on how nice you look today............ I think not.
 

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BuckwildNYC - who says that men don't have good conversations with women that they're not into. I had a few good female friends in high school that I was good friends with - I had no romantic interest in them whatsoever. And, sometimes if you have a good friendship with an attractive woman (you don't need to be into her, though) she may have friends that you are interested in.

Are you trying to tell me that you pay no attention to the other two workers at all? That's just rude. Don't get me wrong - I'll pay more attention to the attractive woman, but I still chat with the other workers.

udontknowme - What sort of personality does he have? If he's shy, introverted, etc then he may be interested in you, but not be able to do anything - if he's a confident guy then he would have most likely made a proper move.

Try reply with something like "Nah, I'm not doing anything. Why, did you want to do something with me?" Then see what sort of reaction you get. The reaction should put you on the right path. Or even pull him up on the fact that he's very interested in what you do outside of work. "You like to know what I do outside of work a lot. Are you attracted to me?" These are probably lame examples, but you should get the idea.

Cheers
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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