"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Did she want sex?

juleswinns

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Went solo sarging on my way home on the subway. Saw a cute blonde wearing a red long sleeve blouse, tight grey jeans, and low heels on the platform. I past the 3 second rule and gave up until she noticed me checking her out. At that point she started to fix her hair and walk around behind me to check out the subway map I was leaning on. I opened her up and she was cool. We talked our way on to a subway cart and sat together. She told me she was a student from the south doing an internship in the city. At one point she emphasized that she was leaving next wednesday. She gave me a look like it meant something. We continued to talk I negged her and she enjoyed it. When I mentioned my job it felt like she could of cared less. I then hit on her but it was a bit awkward. When her stop came she said goodbye.


questions.
1. was she looking for sex when she emphasized her departure date?
2. The last time a girl didn't care what I did for a living was horny. So is this a common sign of horniness?
3. I felt like she wanted to be gamed hardcore with out her doing any work if that makes any sense.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Why go through the trouble and not pursue her further? What happened?
 

juleswinns

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last man standing? Are you saying I should of gamed her more? I just backed off because I couldn't read her anymore and I didn't know what to say.
 
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The only reason a man would talk to a strange woman is to pursue her romantically!! Were you asking for directions? No! So, you obviously had a purpose to speak to her - follow through!! But if you felt bad vibes through your inquiry then I understand!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"I'll be leaving next Wednesday."

Translation: I don't want to get involved because I'm leaving soon...but I might give you a quickie if you'd stop yammering and get on with asking me out to lunch and then going back to your place.
 

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WaterTiger said:
"I'll be leaving next Wednesday."

Translation: I don't want to get involved because I'm leaving soon...but I might give you a quickie if you'd stop yammering and get on with asking me out to lunch and then going back to your place.
there you go, straight from the horses mouth... er, tiger's
 

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This has been said so many times before, but after all these threads I'm starting to realize that it applies so much in my life and everyone else's. Don't worry about what signs she's giving off or what she said and etc.

Guys have to not only approach, but ask her out or at least ask for her phone number. If she declines, start making up excuses, etc then you know where she stands. If she accepts then you obviously don't have to worry about what vibe she was giving off.

Women talk to guys for a variety of reasons: You may be a prospect that she may want if her BF isn't working out, she may want to vibe with you to see if you're a guy that she would like to get to know better, she may actually already deem you very attractive and want a ONS or a relationship off of your physical looks, she may even just come up to you to flirt or boost her ego knowing that she can get most men to be attracted to her.

We have to stop worrying about all of those things since we can't read minds. We just have to try or luck and find out what they mean.
 
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