"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Did she just blow me off?

Life-Trainee

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I called up a chick I met couple of days ago today. She said she was sick and wouldn't be able to hang out this weekend either cuz her parents are visiting her. Said we should hang out "some other time". This is a surprise to me cuz I had really good rapport with her and she was the one suggesting we exchange numbers and do something on tuesday. I'm thinking of waiting a week and call her towards the middle of next week to arrange something. And if not, it's her loss.

Have we got any rejection specialists in the audience who could chime in?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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so what. wait a little while, then call again.

but dont wait for the sake of waiting, thats lame.

organise stuff with friends, then when you are done, call her. just because she said no once doesn't mean she is lying and doesn't want to see you. believe it or not some people actually do get ill ;)
 

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Just because you had a good rapport with the chick does not mean you will get the date. Who knows what was going through her head at the time maybe she did it so she could feel good about herself.

Sounds like she was blowing you off. Its her loss go sarge other women.

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Chicks 'say' a lot of things -- they go blah blah blah until they actually take 'action'.

Do you go by what she says or by what she does (or doesn't)?
 

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I've been reading a lot of Juggler method material. I don't use any of the prefab routines cuz I think they're gay.

I did use a few concepts like rewarding her for being interesting. I waited for her to demonstrate value and I rewarded her with sincere compliments (mutual value escalation).

My mate tried to game her too with C&F but she stuck out with me and in the end of the night I made out with her.

I did break the 3 day "guideline", but I doubt that mattered. We'll see maybe not everything is lost.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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give another crack at it, one more time.

then remember the five words....

action speaks louder than words
 

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Originally posted by Life-Trainee
Have we got any rejection specialists in the audience who could chime in?
Yes. I'm a double-major in the art of rejection. I've been rejected 100's of times.

The problem you have here is that you're over-analyzing the situation. Who really gives a sh*t if she's hanging out with her parents or if she genuiwinely doesn't want to ever see you again? Just call her up at another time and ask her out. Don't try to figure out what a girl is thinking... that's just pointless. She could be in love with you for f*ck sakes.
 
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