Did she get butt hurt? Am I being TOO aloof?

[jnMissouri]

tl;dr

This girl and I are in a relationship explicitly stated BY HER repeatedly, she blows up my phone, I’ve talked to her mom, sister, etc. She keeps wanting me to meet her parents out of state. I told her I’d fly her out here and we would eventually move in together. She told me she prefers to live alone, sent me a flurry of text messages when I didn’t respond. I responded an hour later and told her I actually agreed that we shouldn’t live together. She stopped responding after that which is VERY uncharacteristic of her. I’m thinking she got butt hurt that I didn’t try to fight for moving in together?
Next step, wait for her to text me tonight like she usually does and if not, send her a c/f text avoiding this topic?


Considering she always texts me and is super interested, and the fact that she was blowing up my phone trying to get me to go visit her and only stopped responding when I agreed with her that we shouldn’t live together, the only thing that makes sense to me is that she is butt hurt I didn’t try to fight for her. It’s not like she stopped responding because I was trying to cling to her. She only stopped texting me after MY last text basically not chasing her….
-------------------------------

So girl I've been dating for about 4 months. She had the relationship talk with me a few weeks ago, we're a couple, etc. She's visiting family out of state right now, I’ve talked to her family on the phone but not in person. She keeps wanting me to come down. It comes up daily. Last night she brought it up on the phone when I was talking with her and her sister. She also brought it up 4 times via text. She kept asking when I'm coming to visit her, she'd love me to come hang out with her there and her sister, etc. She is coming back here but put her stuff in storage before she left here (was renting a room out of a house).

I told her I could come down or I could I'd fly her here and that it's only a matter of time before she moves in with me anyways so it’s not like she’d be in a hotel or apartment for long [in a few months, I can’t have her move in with me right now…]. She said she prefers to live alone because she is a lot to deal with, a bit crazy, etc. (HB9). I didn’t text her back right away and she kept sending more texts (about 5) roughly ten minutes apart explaining it like she was worried that I wasn’t responding, as she often does when I stop responding. So I actually responded maybe 5 minutes after her last text (this is about an hour into her flurry of texts) telling her that I agree we should not live together [side note, I actually prefer that anyways, I just offered that because I know she is broke].

She didn’t respond after that text, which is SUPER uncharacteristic of her. This girl will blow up my phone, was blowing up my phone minutes prior and keeps wanting me to come visit her, meet her family in person, brings it up several times a day, etc. She get’s mad if I don’t text her good night, and she will go out of her way to text me good night.

I’m wondering if my “I don’t care attitude” about it made her butt hurt like I don’t care about her/she was thrown for a loop that I didn’t try to convince her otherwise OR this was some kind of test to see if I really like her (something her sister may be feeding her) OR she’s butt hurt that it at least appears that I’m not that interested in her?

I suspect she will text me tonight like usual. But maybe she wont. A lot of times she will ask me what I meant by something I said a day or days earlier so she might even bring it up. But if she doesn’t, should I go radio silent on her? Or text her some c**ky funny line about how I hope she doesn’t kidnap me if I come down there? I figure something C/F would be fine but not to bring up the weirdness last night or why she stopped responding. At least not in the first text. Thoughts?

Again, keep in mind we are in a relationship, we aren’t just dating. She wants me to meet her family and I talk with her sister and mom a fair amount on the phone, I have her mom’s number.

I’m really thinking she was hurt when I was basically like “that’s cool with ME”. I know moments prior when I was talking to her sister and her on the phone she was noticeably upset that I ended the conversation first. I could feel the sadness in her long pause and her voice when I told her I had to go. Maybe I’m coming across as too aloof or?

I know from her flurry of texts prior to my last text that she was blowing up my phone and to me the only real reason for her to have stopped texting me (she never does that) when I told her I was cool with that/agreed with her would be because she wasn't expecting me to just go along with it, instead expecting me to try to convince her otherwise. She NEVER goes silent on me like this....

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Keep it cool until she reaches out

 

[jnMissouri]

Keep it cool until she reaches out

That could backfire if she's really butt hurt though. I really think she is mad and thinks I'm not that interested in her.

 

[backseatjuan]

Pardon me to read your first paragraph only. Your long story short is laid out for me right here.

This girl and I are in a relationship explicitly stated BY HER repeatedly, she blows up my phone, I’ve talked to her mom, sister, etc. She keeps wanting me to meet her parents out of state.

She's playing and pursuing you with game, heavily. She wouldn't do it if you had no game and only looks, maybe she'd do it if you had money, in which case you'd be fcked if you had no game.

I told her I’d fly her out here and we would eventually move in together. She told me she prefers to live alone, sent me a flurry of text messages when I didn’t respond.

She realized you had game and played hard to get, as if she's not a btch slvt c0ck svcker wh0re that she is.

I responded an hour later and told her I actually agreed that we shouldn’t live together. She stopped responding after that which is VERY uncharacteristic of her.

She was surprised by your 'I don't give a damn' response, wtf man, she throw her ass under your dck, ready to get married and sht, and you treat her like wh0re that she is. Your next step, in couple of days, ask her when to meet her parents and sht. Get her warmed up, lie to her, and fck her ass, and be sure to cvm into her mouth, before you ditch her.

 

[SoSuave666]

What do you mean you're in a relationship and not just dating? It's the same thing, only with a catchy new label which she can remove at any time. It's been 4 months, that's the key here. Relationship don't mean ****. 4 months is too early to even consider moving in together and it's a ridiculous thing for you to even entertain.

This is some cuck behavior. Just don't talk to her until she reaches out to you. Get rid of the fear and desperation and get your balls back.

 

[jnMissouri]

Pardon me to read your first paragraph only. Your long story short is laid out for me right here.



She's playing and pursuing you with game, heavily. She wouldn't do it if you had no game and only looks, maybe she'd do it if you had money, in which case you'd be fcked if you had no game.



She realized you had game and played hard to get, as if she's not a btch slvt c0ck svcker wh0re that she is.



She was surprised by your 'I don't give a damn' response, wtf man, she throw her ass under your dck, ready to get married and sht, and you treat her like wh0re that she is. Your next step, in couple of days, ask her when to meet her parents and sht. Get her warmed up, lie to her, and fck her ass, and be sure to cvm into her mouth, before you ditch her.

Yeah, this is what I'm thinking. She didn't go from come meet my family in person nearly half a dozen times that night alone to not responding because of me telling her I don't want to live together either...the only explanation that makes sense is that my idgaf attitude threw her for a loop.

I think I should reach out tonight about a trip there. Not talking to her for a couple days will only make it worse, she hits me up daily.

 

[jnMissouri]

Pardon me to read your first paragraph only. Your long story short is laid out for me right here.



She's playing and pursuing you with game, heavily. She wouldn't do it if you had no game and only looks, maybe she'd do it if you had money, in which case you'd be fcked if you had no game.



She realized you had game and played hard to get, as if she's not a btch slvt c0ck svcker wh0re that she is.



She was surprised by your 'I don't give a damn' response, wtf man, she throw her ass under your dck, ready to get married and sht, and you treat her like wh0re that she is. Your next step, in couple of days, ask her when to meet her parents and sht. Get her warmed up, lie to her, and fck her ass, and be sure to cvm into her mouth, before you ditch her.

Update: moments after my last post here this morning she texted me asking if I was mad at her. She rarely texts me in the mornings so the tension was obviously high and she wanted some resolution/to find out whats up. So we are talking and it's all good. She was just shocked and misunderstood the joke.

She told me I worry too much and that she didn't pull away, that she just wants to leave room for our relationship to grow over time.

Women, lol.

 

[Robert28]

Update: moments after my last post here this morning she texted me asking if I was mad at her. She rarely texts me in the mornings so the tension was obviously high and she wanted some resolution/to find out whats up. So we are talking and it's all good. She was just shocked and misunderstood the joke.

She told me I worry too much and that she didn't pull away, that she just wants to leave room for our relationship to grow over time.

Women, lol.

They always come back dude. That’s the one thing I wish all men could learn. Never panic and show your cards, it.lt will workout eventually in your favor. I started seeing a girl regularly awhile back and be dammed if a girl that I thought I’d never hear from again decides to pop up a year and a half later as soon as things were getting off the ground with this other girl. Wanting to meet up and everything, I just had to name the time and place. This girl was never this receptive to me back when her and I were talking but now she’s Ms Availible a year and a half later at the snap of a finger.lol