thebiglimp
Don Juan
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okay, this is a continuation of the encounter that i listed in my previous thread.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=224475&page=2
so i ended up texting her back couple days later, breaking the protocol so to speak. but she did agree to meet up.
it was at another bar, the vibe was way less exciting than the previous meet, my contribution being that i was so darn tired that day. basically i was an asexual bore. meaning i had no desire to initiate anything and was just sullen throughout the meet.
the bar's about to close so i ask if she wants to go to another spot, and get told that she has to go home. that's that, i thought.
but then right before we part, she suggests that i join her and her friends at a dinner couple days later, telling me that she'll call. i was pretty sure i was friendzoned then.
she didn't call for the dinner, but for a drinking event almost a week later, with the same friends. since i figured i was friendzoned, i was able to act as casual as possible without the pressure to impress her, and we actually had a good laugh.
before we part she tells me that she wants me to come check out her work at her gallery couple days later. now my sensors lit up then because i'm suddenly being invited to the woman's place.
i sent a song on fb the next day just for the sake of sharing. (that's how we interfaced initially)
then texted her 'wanna hang out' 4 days later, got the excuse that she was hung over.
initiated fb conversation 10 days after that and when she asked what i was up to that day i asked again to 'hang out' and got turned down once more.
saw that her loc was changed to a different country 5 days later so i asked about that and was told that she hoped to see me before she departs.
that's all the communication i had with her since the last meet a month ago. obviously nothing's coming out of this but i wonder
-if i should've been more enthusiastic by calling her to chat and whatnot instead of short bursts of text and
-whether if texting her after the last meet was already too much.
in retrospect, i'm thinking, since we already had three 'dates' (more like meets, actually) i should've warmed up to communicating with her in more friendly pattern.
how much of this was in my control? or is it simply just low interest level going cold? i figured by third meet we were simply becoming plutonic friends but if so we would have 'hung out' at least once within the month that has followed.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=224475&page=2
so i ended up texting her back couple days later, breaking the protocol so to speak. but she did agree to meet up.
it was at another bar, the vibe was way less exciting than the previous meet, my contribution being that i was so darn tired that day. basically i was an asexual bore. meaning i had no desire to initiate anything and was just sullen throughout the meet.
the bar's about to close so i ask if she wants to go to another spot, and get told that she has to go home. that's that, i thought.
but then right before we part, she suggests that i join her and her friends at a dinner couple days later, telling me that she'll call. i was pretty sure i was friendzoned then.
she didn't call for the dinner, but for a drinking event almost a week later, with the same friends. since i figured i was friendzoned, i was able to act as casual as possible without the pressure to impress her, and we actually had a good laugh.
before we part she tells me that she wants me to come check out her work at her gallery couple days later. now my sensors lit up then because i'm suddenly being invited to the woman's place.
i sent a song on fb the next day just for the sake of sharing. (that's how we interfaced initially)
then texted her 'wanna hang out' 4 days later, got the excuse that she was hung over.
initiated fb conversation 10 days after that and when she asked what i was up to that day i asked again to 'hang out' and got turned down once more.
saw that her loc was changed to a different country 5 days later so i asked about that and was told that she hoped to see me before she departs.
that's all the communication i had with her since the last meet a month ago. obviously nothing's coming out of this but i wonder
-if i should've been more enthusiastic by calling her to chat and whatnot instead of short bursts of text and
-whether if texting her after the last meet was already too much.
in retrospect, i'm thinking, since we already had three 'dates' (more like meets, actually) i should've warmed up to communicating with her in more friendly pattern.
how much of this was in my control? or is it simply just low interest level going cold? i figured by third meet we were simply becoming plutonic friends but if so we would have 'hung out' at least once within the month that has followed.
