"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yo'Mama

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I went out last night with a couple of girls that I met off the net. Actually I met one girl off the net but she was with her friend. We had a good time, were drinking, etc. Both girls were fairly hot but in different ways. I was flirting with both, trying to keep my options open (depending which of them was more up for it) but in the end made a move on Girl A.

Girl A was a bit coy and was giving me some nonsense about guys having to earn trust, the right to get anything physical, etc. So naturally after that speech I focused my attention on Girl B who turned out to be much more open and up for it. Clearly I picked the wrong girl first. I engineered the situation so Girl A left then I went for another drink with Girl B. She seemed really into me, we were kissing, she wanted to see me again, etc.

However obviously these girls are going to talk and Girl A will tell Girl B that I tried it on with her first. No doubt they'll be saying 'Men!!!' to each other. It's a shame because I would like to see Girl B again. How likely is this to blow me out of the water? Is there anything I can do damage limitation wise? What should I have done differently?

If this doesn't work out i'm only mildly annoyed but I would like opinions on how to deal with this kind of situation in the future. Thank you men.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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May not be as big of a deal as you think. Don't sweat it, keep moving forward and if it comes up and your hosed...oh wellsss

Next time you might want to try to get a better feel before trying anything that overtly shows interest.
 

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The answer here is simple.

If you did a great job of creating attraction with girl B, she won't care what girl A says to her about you because girls are ruled by their emotions/feelings.

Give it a couple days, then hit up girl B again to continue escalate and see what happens. If she is wishy washy or doesn't counter offer then you know she was only having fun on that night and didn't have concrete interest.




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Sounds like good advice. That's interesting - I thought girls would be pretty influenced by their friends so if Girl A was saying 'He tried it on with you too? He's a pig! All men are pigs!' then Girl B would feel sort of obliged not to pursue things. Also she will obviously realise that my affections are somewhat indiscriminate, lol.

Anyway, whatever. I had fun and that was the main thing.

Yuppaz you're right, I didn't do a good job of gauging interest before going for Girl A.
 

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Maybe / maybe not bro - I'm impressed that you saw the pitfall w/ girl A and switched it up. Good eye
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Thanks dude. I was happy with that. She gave a 10 minute speech about how guys had to put time and work in and shouldn't expect anything instantly from a woman. There was a time way back when in my AFC days, when I would have been thinking how to court her over a 6 month period, what restaurants to go to, how to reassure her that I was different, etc. Instead I just nodded and smiled and started scheming on getting with her friend. Progress!
 

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You should of brought a wingman for Girl A in the beginning haha. I never go out with 2 girls at the same time due to the fact it usually makes both jealous and attention starved... But since you pulled it off very nicely done. Congrats!!!
 

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Dude, you demonstrated a textbook example of "spinning plates." You attracted both girls simultaneously. Don't sweat it, bro. Girl A may have expressed "trust issues" with you, but, on a carnal level, you attracted her by fleeting off with Girl B. If you play your cards right, you may even gain a threesome with the two. Forget the BS rants given by Woman A. Gain sex as quickly as possible, and forget the AFC notion of a 6-month courtship. If it takes that long, she will friendzone you.
 

Yo'Mama

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Heh thanks guys. So wasn't so bad after all?

Urgently need a wingman out here. Am actually gonna have to go out and try to recruit a wing. Might have to use the Top Gun line, 'Hey you can be my wingman anytime!'.

Actually I'm going to make another post about wings right now.
 
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