"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Did i ruin my chances?

van1331

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Well first of all, it's about this smart girl (age:20) that i like and i have been talking to her lately with good success as a AFC,

(On a side note, i walked her halfway on this path from school while having a very interesting conversation about her job, then we got to a point where we went separate ways, i told her "well i'll see you later" then i put my hands on the back of her shoulder in an attempt to hug her and something strange happen, she abruptly turned around and fell slowly in my arms but it didn't even feel like a HUG......i was skeptical at first because of how slow mo she was going and then i just smiled and we left walking off smiling at each other)

from where i left off, then this week class got cancelled for a day and note, that i only see her twice a week. then on this class website that we use for studying and doing hw where we can instaCHAT/ like an e-mail basically, i messaged her saying

subject: Hello
"Hi (name here)

she hasnt responded yet, but would she think i'm a creep for messaging her randomly because class got cancelled that day? or am i just analyzing this too much......... But here's the other thing ......that class website is like a zombie....ITD DEADDDDDD!!!!.....BORRRRRING.....and with that fact in mind...OMG........
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dubh

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Ok 1st of all you need to read the dj bible and get used to transforming your mind into becoming a dj so you dont consider your self an afc at least not around women becuz they can sense you being un easiness around them and no you havent messed up but get her comfortable around you so the next hug will seem natural definatly read the dj bible at the bottom of the page
 

blueline

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You have a lot to learn, man. I'd suggest cold approaching the hell out of a ton of women to figure out exactly what you're doing wrong.

That girl probably liked you, but you have no idea how to act and need to crash and burn in situations where the girl's opinion of you afterwards will not affect your social life.
 
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