"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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did i play the situation right?

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long story short, i had a huge crush on this girl (9/10). i was atfirst and AFC and laid it out that i really liked her and thought she was the best girl i've ever met.

well this didnt work for me real quick, as she ate the attention and turned away real quick. she would act like she loved me once second, and the next second she would be shady and would refuse to do anything sexual with me. we hooked up a few times, but since then i've learned from my mistakes and been paying less attention to her and making her jealous all the time.

anyways, a few months later after much DJing, she comes to me asking me what we are and deep inside i know i want more than friends, but i feel that its better to tell her i just want to be friends. her reaction to this was devastating, as tears started rolling down her face. i told her she was way too undecisive, and inturn it turned me off to her.

so what do i do now? now i know she wants me, but i feel that if i stick a leg out there and admit that i do liek her, she'll go back to her old ways of playing games and controlling me. however, if i continue to tell her i just want to be friends, then she'll most likely move on. such a hard situation.

thanks
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Don't tell her with words that you are interested, say it through actions (asking her out, kino etc). Treat her like a new girl that you are interested in.
 

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Well summer is coming and I don't neccesarily want a LTR NOW, but i would hope for one when we come back to school in a few months (we live 2 hrs away)
 
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