"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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did i play the situation right?

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long story short, i had a huge crush on this girl (9/10). i was atfirst and AFC and laid it out that i really liked her and thought she was the best girl i've ever met.

well this didnt work for me real quick, as she ate the attention and turned away real quick. she would act like she loved me once second, and the next second she would be shady and would refuse to do anything sexual with me. we hooked up a few times, but since then i've learned from my mistakes and been paying less attention to her and making her jealous all the time.

anyways, a few months later after much DJing, she comes to me asking me what we are and deep inside i know i want more than friends, but i feel that its better to tell her i just want to be friends. her reaction to this was devastating, as tears started rolling down her face. i told her she was way too undecisive, and inturn it turned me off to her.

so what do i do now? now i know she wants me, but i feel that if i stick a leg out there and admit that i do liek her, she'll go back to her old ways of playing games and controlling me. however, if i continue to tell her i just want to be friends, then she'll most likely move on. such a hard situation.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don't tell her with words that you are interested, say it through actions (asking her out, kino etc). Treat her like a new girl that you are interested in.
 

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Well summer is coming and I don't neccesarily want a LTR NOW, but i would hope for one when we come back to school in a few months (we live 2 hrs away)
 
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