"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So I'm a sophomore at college and I got a girl's number under the veil we'd do hw together since we're in the same math class(bad move ik).

After a few texts about hw I asked her out ice skating. She said yes and that she'd get back to me with a specific time.

Two weeks later and no reply....

But then I saw her at a party and she was a little drunk but firmly grabbed my arm and said "I know I ignored you but text me to remind me about ice skating!"

Of course I didn't text her, but I got a text from her the next day about a hw question.



I see her everyday since my college only has 370 students in each graduating class. I saw her today after the text and gave her a smirk and she immediately looked away.

I was debating whether to continue to ignore her or just say 'who's this?' and act uninterested.

Thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'd either ask her once more then drop it forever (if that will help you get closure), or just drop it right now, delete her number and move on. Saying "who's this?" is childish because you know who it is and she knows that you know etc. Just treat her like any classmate/acquaintance. Friendly and respectful but avoid confrontation unless necessary.
 

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tonynisk said:
So I'm a sophomore at college and I got a girl's number under the veil we'd do hw together since we're in the same math class(bad move ik).

After a few texts about hw I asked her out ice skating. She said yes and that she'd get back to me with a specific time.

Two weeks later and no reply....

But then I saw her at a party and she was a little drunk but firmly grabbed my arm and said "I know I ignored you but text me to remind me about ice skating!"

Of course I didn't text her, but I got a text from her the next day about a hw question.

I saw her today after the text and gave her a smirk and she immediately looked away.

I was debating whether to continue to ignore her or just say 'who's this?' and act uninterested.
I wouldn't answer the text, she's either making you work too hard or trying to protect herself and make a fool out of you.

For someone your age its hard to hear this but just move on, don't waste too much effort and time with her.

I remember when I was a sophomore I would fly across the ocean in the hopes of getting a kiss from a girl. Now I don't think I could drive more than 10 minutes to sleep with a girl. :rock:
 

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Ok thanks guys. I was debating whether to text "haha sorry ive been pretty busy" to reestablish contact but ignoring her is probably way less beta.
 
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