Did I move too fast and mess it up? Please help

[GS750]

Flowers?? No. Don't send flowers at this point.

 

[Tictac]

Jeez man.

Find a clue with both hands.

Move on.

But learn the lesson and NEVER behave like this again.

 

[Ronaldo7]

Send her chocolates and a letter expressing how you feel about her.

 

[GS750]

DO NOT send flowers, chocolates, gifts, love letters, etc. Not unless, of course, you want to scare her away for good.

 

[Ronaldo7]

You could also send her a poem. To guarantee you get her back, you should go and serenade her at her house.

 

[GS750]

or go to her house and do this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oqMm_nrJH78


Just joking. Don't do that either.

 

[jdmslimid]

Well fackkk....This is a crappy situation. Not exactly gonna let her go. But in the mean time I'll give her space, a lot like a week or so and concentrate on me. Then next week we'll see what's up. Or two weeks from now whenever it feels right to attempt to fix this mess. I don't feel it's necessarily a lost cause so I mean sh#+. Not sure if trolling about sending flowers and letter but I've had so many people seriously tell me that lol "give it a week or 2. Then send her flowers and a legit letter or be at her doorstep with it." I'm thinking wtf would this work.

 

[All Charm]

All charm

Whoever you are...you deserve a medal. Idk how or why but you just enlightened the s*** out of me. Sounds like you know from experience. Not saying everyone else on here didn't help out, they did. But that right there opened my eyes. With that being said, looks like I'm staying put and not going to text for a while. If she doesn't text me, should I give her a call next week or send some flowers or some s***? All is appreciated guys

Man I'm glad I could help.

Now did you say she deleted you from her contacts? Seems like this girl likes to be chased and take this; everything runs away from what is pursuing it.

From what I can see here, you have invested too much energy on this girl, be it mental and whatever else and you just find it very hard to let go. I don't blame you, I've been there and I hated every moment I couldn't just get her the **** out of my head. This girl of yours were it possible that there was a way you could get her jealous that would work like a magic. Right now she sees you as a guy of low value, without lots of options ready to jump on the first thing that gives him even an ounce of attention. From my experience, desperation is the worst attraction killer known to womaniverse.

Don't send her any flowers, any text or give her any impression that she is of any value to you. You need to learn how to use gifts and little display of romance to reward women's good behaviour and from what's going on here, this girl has been a very naughty girl who deserve some good ol' trashing of 'I don't have time for little attention seeking sluts, I got better things to do with my time'.

For now, you get out there, increase your social circle, **** with some other byatches, get rejected, learn from those rejections, work on improving yourself and becoming the kind of man women find irresistible. Let me ask you a question, deep down inside you, is this girl the best you think you can do? Is she truly the best out there you deserve? One thing you need to understand here man is that this attraction we're talking about offers no second chances. Remember she doesn't choose to be attracted to any man, she just feels it as a response the same way you just can't get your mind off that HB 9 with the perfect a$$ as soon as your set your eyes on her. Once you have a girl turned off, there is absolutely nothing you can do to turn it back on, no amount of stalking and apologising will help, it'll only make you look weaker and get her hamster drier than the sahara. Women are never attracted to weak men, DO NOT BE WEAK!

You've screwed up. You need to cut your losses, learn from it and move on to the next. Look, to keep your self respect and appearance of a man in high demand, you must not do any more damage than is already done. Remember its faking it until it's real. Keep working at it and before you know it, it's natural.

Best of luck man

 

[All Charm]

All charm

Whoever you are...you deserve a medal. Idk how or why but you just enlightened the s*** out of me. Sounds like you know from experience. Not saying everyone else on here didn't help out, they did. But that right there opened my eyes. With that being said, looks like I'm staying put and not going to text for a while. If she doesn't text me, should I give her a call next week or send some flowers or some s***? All is appreciated guys

Man I'm glad I could help.

Now did you say she deleted you from her contacts? Seems like this girl likes to be chased and take this; everything runs away from what is pursuing it.

From what I can see here, you have invested too much energy on this girl, be it mental and whatever else and you just find it very hard to let go. I don't blame you, I've been there and I hated every moment I couldn't just get her the **** out of my head. This girl of yours were it possible that there was a way you could get her jealous that would work like a magic. Perhaps post a couple of photos of you hanging out totally cool with different chics, and responding to her comments, messages, whatever with complete indifference and non challance almost like you've forgotten anything happened between you two. But since she's deleted you, that option is out. Right now she sees you as a guy of low value, without lots of options ready to jump on the first thing that gives him even an ounce of attention. From my experience, desperation is the worst attraction killer known to womaniverse.

Don't send her any flowers, any text or give her any impression that she is of any value to you. You need to learn how to use gifts and little display of romance to reward women's good behaviour and from what's going on here, this girl has been a very naughty girl who deserve some good ol' trashing of 'I don't have time for little attention seeking sluts, I got better things to do with my time'.

 

[All Charm]

For now, you get out there, increase your social circle, **** with some other byatches, get rejected, learn from those rejections, work on improving yourself and becoming the kind of man women find irresistible. Let me ask you a question, deep down inside you, is this girl the best you think you can do? Is she truly the best out there you deserve? One thing you need to understand here man is that this attraction we're talking about offers no second chances. Remember she doesn't choose to be attracted to any man, she just feels it as a response the same way you just can't get your mind off that HB 9 with the perfect a$$ as soon as your set your eyes on her. Once you have a girl turned off, there is absolutely nothing you can do to turn it back on, no amount of stalking and apologising will help, it'll only make you look weaker and get her hamster drier than the sahara. Women are never attracted to weak men, DO NOT BE WEAK!

You've screwed up. You need to cut your losses, learn from it and move on to the next. Look, to keep your self respect and appearance of a man in high demand, you must not do any more damage than is already done. Remember its faking it until it's real. Keep working at it and before you know it, it's natural.

Best of luck man

 

[jdmslimid]

Thanks man you've been helping out alot. It's weird...she deleted me of Facebook and Instagram all that bs, yet not off the dating site. We both agreed to log out and delete the dating app and we did. Well I have this feeling she's looking for me to do something. I logged into it and I see she's logged back in. Now she didn't delete the messages we had or anything. It says she hasn't been on since then though. Is she waiting for something from me? Also my Facebook and Instagram are open, and I can see who's viewed my pics. Well guess who recently has, her. Jealousy is a dirty option. So now I think it's just some game. Only thing I can do is give it time and try to concentrate on myself. Yes I've definitely dated numerous women and I was with my ex for nearly 2 years. This girl greatly surpasses my ex with no effort. It's ridiculous how perfect in my eyes she is. I've been doing much better in the last day or so and not texting her is not becoming a problem. But I do get an urge to send one last message or make one last attempt to either talk to her or see her. It's my gut feeling that me and her will work. I'll tell you now...getting females isn't my issue, not to be ****y, but just this one, this damn female has my mind and heart racing like no one else. Sure there may be one more to come but someone like her, honestly what are the chances? By the middle of next week I get nothing, I guess I'll scratch this one out and see if she'll come back to me. I have a lot to offer as an alpha in a relationship, it's my lack of self control to start off slow is what screws me.

 

[christoff522]

Well fackkk....This is a crappy situation. Not exactly gonna let her go. But in the mean time I'll give her space, a lot like a week or so and concentrate on me. Then next week we'll see what's up. Or two weeks from now whenever it feels right to attempt to fix this mess. I don't feel it's necessarily a lost cause so I mean sh#+. Not sure if trolling about sending flowers and letter but I've had so many people seriously tell me that lol "give it a week or 2. Then send her flowers and a legit letter or be at her doorstep with it." I'm thinking wtf would this work.

Dude, not being mean..nasty..insulting. But you're on the way to a restraining order or a beating if you continue like that.

Stop trying to fix, accept the situation as it is IT IS WHAT IT IS.

Move away from the situation, stop being clingy. Read about self-improvement, internalise and GROW. Why are you trying to fix this? What will you achieve? Do you think she'll go "Oh my sweet love, I am so smitten at these material attempts to win me over that now I shall marry you". Do girls really work like that? No, they want a guy with status, leadership potential, and self-value. You evidently have no value of yourself, you're trying to buy her affection - it doesn't work. She wants to chase you, she wants to win YOUR affection (Or at least she did). My friend you have ZERO chance of getting her back. Leave it.

 

[Vulpine]

Well here it goes...I met this girl online.
Here's where I think I messed up...I stood the night
please help!

"...holding hands...", "...lovebirds...",
"I'm gonna let him chase me...let him keep

All charm

Whoever you are...you deserve a medal. Idk how or why but you just enlightened the s*** out of me. Sounds like you know from experience. Not saying everyone else on here didn't help out, they did. But that right there opened my eyes.

Same poster. Or, had the same English teacher that didn't teach proper use of the ellipsis. Take a look at vernacular, structure, and try NOT to see it's the same person.

Both signed up this month, same post count from the same thread. You deserve a medal alright.

So... who invited "these two"?

She knows I'm a cop...maybe she's got a cop fetish haha. Thanks.

GS

Yeah, I know...but I work nights so I figured it couldn't hurt.

I did hint of getting together in the future...she says "we'll play it by ear".

So I didn't take that as a good sign...and I hate that expression.

Guess, as Nismo would say...she's in a another castle.

Thoughts?

Thanks for reply. I know she's got a ton of options, but that picture you added...that puts it in perspective. Haha thanks.

This is interesting...but it makes sense.

So a girl I was seeing and I agreed to no contact. I have not seen her in a while but we have been in contact, mostly through text, and mostly initiated by her. She told me she's "pursuing" a relationship with someone. So I told her that's fine, but if we're not going to be seeing each other then there's no need for us to be in contact. She texted back "okay". So about four hours later she texts me: "I hope in your future relationships you are more open to expressing your feelings. I never got the feeling that you cared for me in any significant way". I suspect she is trying to bait me into spilling me guts...which I won't. I still have not responded to this text. Suggestions?

Deja-ƒucking-vu here, folks.

Check the endings of posts, similar?

...er a call next week or send some flowers or some s***? All is appreciated guys

...I've fallen for her please help!

This guy, too? Wow.

...inally step up my game. Tips for improving?

And him?

Any input is appreciated. Cheers.

Holy crap!! How many accounts have you created? I can't even click and list all the same posts you've made, about the same crap, with the same answers!

Dude, not being mean..nasty..insulting.

...nce of getting her back. Leave it.

That little sentence fragment at the end of your posts is a "tell", just like the misuse of the ellipses is. Actually, incomplete sentences are recurring throughout.

While clicking and looking at whose posting in which threads, the similarities are glaring. Who posted here? Click their name, check their posts, and see who is in THOSE threads. Note the format. Then click on a new name... oops, same format. Then follow posters in those threads? Same format.

I shudder to think how many accounts this person created and how much spam has been generated.

Somebody give me an ax so I can cut this troll cancer out! FAWK!!!

All
the
same
troll.

If you're sick of all the "same stupid spam" on the boards, it's for go reason: it is the same, and from the same person.

So, if this happened to you...would you add her as a friend and try to ask her out?

I think if she doesn't want to give you her number she is not interested, but if you just met her for one minute or two...would you always think she's not interested if she's not giving you her number?

Are you seeing it, yet?

No?

Another?

It's been 8 hours and I haven't responded.
Thoughts?

She told me about her ex up front, so I figure maybe they are just friends...or perhaps she was trying to "hide him in plain sight."
Just frustrating.

Yep.

All these accounts? Same person.

Spamming their own BPD or novice-stupid threads with their own accounts. "Yeah, good one man, thanks. Sure, you're awesome and deserve a medal. You really think so?"

Multiple personalities sort of crazy, or just a woman, it's all the same trolling.

 

[jdmslimid]

This is my account I only have 1. Why would I give myself advice you idiot. Your not sherlock. First time ive gone through this dilemma bro. Maybe guys are having the same problems I am? I know im not alone here. I'm not stupid. And we'll **** I'm out of luck then. This blows. I was really into her too and now it's all facked up. I'm not some pansy ass, just the first time feeling this way. Can you blame me? Like f*#* what was I supposed to do. I'm not saying love at first sight but pretty damn close

 

[hudpes]

You've got a thick skull (because you built up expectations, the way most guys do and her reaction seems irrational), and we can't get through to you, so I'll try to explain in short ,it will be a bit paradoxical but try to understand: It's over. But in case you accept it's over, it may not be over if she will contact you. You have to move on, fully accepting it is over and you will never see her again. She may contact you, but you shouldn't count on that, because then you wouldn't be able to move on and you need to, because it is quite likely that she won't contact you. Got it? :cheer:

 

[GS750]

That's some great detective work Vulpine...but I've only got one account. Can't speak for anyone else though.

 

[jdmslimid]

Well she messaged me back and I explained my intentions weren't to move fast and that I made a mistake jumping the gun. I just sent a straight forward text and that just about did it. I just want to know If she's interested or not. If she is, well hell yeh. If not, I got others no biggie. I've gotten to the point lately where I say f*** it

 

[Tictac]

You are hopeless.

 

[Comatozed]

Jesus christ.

 

[Agness1623]

Everyone has been there...Definately don't text her again...Never text a girl more than once with no reply, especially if they don't respond the first time. Maybe wait till the next day and send one but if nothing again then it's pretty much over. If she is into you she will let you know by responding. At this point I wouldn't give up, she could just be busy. And you went on dates and all that so she seems interested.

I'll give ya a little lesson...never get attached first. Play it cool and get some poon if you can and if she keeps coming back then eventually the ball will be in your court if you wanna be with her. That is were you want them, to be scared of losing you not the other way around.

Don't feel like a piece of **** for moving fast either, most if not all have done it, I asked a girl out in a few weeks without even really being that into her. She was a slut and cheated on me then stopped texting and I realized I didn't like her, just the poon. Get the poon and worry about the relationship later.