"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alpheta

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Been with my gf who is a virgin for half a year. The girl has been with no one. Done nothing so everything is new.

I slept over her place yesterday and was hoping for some of that good good. The furthest i got was eating her out,her rubbing me off and dry sexing. I tried to sex her but she fully did not want to. Shes religous and so wants marriage first before any of that.

I mean she would say while i rubbed up on her that she so badly wants the cawk in her but as soon as i whipped it out shed back off and resist.

We did everything else. I made her orgasm for the first time by eating her out but failed to break in.

Did i fail? I believe i may be unravelling her but how long must i wait?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The best thing you can do is let her know sex is available to her, but avoid being desperate for it. NEVER get frustrated at her for not going through with it. You should have another woman on the side for fvcking if you find yourself getting desperate for a lay. You have to make her be the one to break her own rule as opposed to you being the one who breaks it. It's her mental block and she has to remove it.

Try introducing a bit of alcohol to the situation to loosen her up a bit.
 

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The best thing you can do is let her know sex is available to her, but avoid being desperate for it. NEVER get frustrated at her for not going through with it. You should have another woman on the side for fvcking if you find yourself getting desperate for a lay. You have to make her be the one to break her own rule as opposed to you being the one who breaks it. It's her mental block and she has to remove it.

Try introducing a bit of alcohol to the situation to loosen her up a bit.
Hmm.

The thing is she doesnt drink. Very religious etc.

I guess i gotta wait it out. I just feel like mission failed and kinda down but yea.
 

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Hmm.

The thing is she doesnt drink. Very religious etc.

I guess i gotta wait it out. I just feel like mission failed and kinda down but yea.
On topic : No you did not mess up.

Don't feel down man, it is not your fault you tried and wanted something wonderful happening to her, yet she resisted, she has to mature to the point where she will want it more then to keep to her rules.

Take a nice bath/shower give her a long sensual massage, if you get her worked up enough she will cave, if not well, her loss. Somethings are not worth the wait so pay attention to how you use your time.

Good luck
 

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On topic : No you did not mess up.

Don't feel down man, it is not your fault you tried and wanted something wonderful happening to her, yet she resisted, she has to mature to the point where she will want it more then to keep to her rules.

Take a nice bath/shower give her a long sensual massage, if you get her worked up enough she will cave, if not well, her loss. Somethings are not worth the wait so pay attention to how you use your time.

Good luck
True.

The thing i guess i can take from it is that I opened her up quite a bit as in introducing her to oral etc etc.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hmm.

The thing is she doesnt drink. Very religious etc.

I guess i gotta wait it out. I just feel like mission failed and kinda down but yea.
Jesus turned water into wine. Righteous people drank wine in the bible. She obviously hasn't read it.

You CANNOT give off this vibe when you're in her presence. Make like it's no big deal and act like you don't give a fvck if you get laid. If you need to vent, come here and do it. Persistence and patience is all you need and she'll eventually move that roadblock aside. She's gonna feel guilty about it afterwards, and you'll have to reassure her that you care about her and aren't going anywhere.

In the meantime, fvck a different chick while you're waiting this one out.
 

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let this one bake and focus your attention on other girls. the problem is she getting what she wants ( attention, time, fvcking oral..) and you don't get the full thing so she must become more invested in you and then she will try to win you by seducing you by her most powerful arsenal and the only arsenal girls these days have anyway **sex**.

so let this cake bake and go shopping for already baked and warm cakes.
 

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I'm actually a bit shocked at the replies.

Here you have a girl who's actually trying to maintain the conviction of only having sex after marriage, you know, a throw back to a time where strong family values were important. As opposed to the free-for-all f-ckfest that's considered normal today which actually makes it tougher for men who genuinely want to invest in a family with a decent woman, and the general advice is to keep pushing until you manage to break her down and spread her legs.

How about telling her you understand and respect her decision and move on to chicks who want to f-ck?

It would be different if she was just trying to lead you on by manipulating you, but it doesn't sound like that's the case. Why poison the well?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm actually a bit shocked at the replies.

Here you have a girl who's actually trying to maintain the conviction of only having sex after marriage, you know, a throw back to a time where strong family values were important. As opposed to the free-for-all f-ckfest that's considered normal today which actually makes it tougher for men who genuinely want to invest in a family with a decent woman, and the general advice is to keep pushing until you manage to break her down and spread her legs.

How about telling her you understand and respect her decision and move on to chicks who want to f-ck?

It would be different if she was just trying to lead you on by manipulating you, but it doesn't sound like that's the case. Why poison the well?
or Gawd forbid marry her?

Sometimes we toss diamonds away looking for bronze.

She sound like a keeper if everything else adds up.
 
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