So this girl and I go out three times in a week. I have known her for a week. And we end up having sex after the third time. She is 24. Not on birth control. She just told me to pull out. Which I did. The next day I asked her how many people she had slept with, her answer was 12. She said her longest relationship was for 10 months. She seems really flirty with every friend of mine she meets. Gets blackout drunk everytime we go out. She seemed kind of normal from first meeting her. IE...college degree, good job. But I really don't know her or any of her friends. She just moved to my city and knows one girl. So I also kind of feel like she is using me because she is lonely?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Did I land a slut?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Why ask why? There are few greater thrills in life than banging the hell out of some girl you don't care about.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Well, what's the sudden turnoff? Her number of sexual partners?althea78 said:
I'm sure that if you've already started to develop feelings, then you've already gotten over the blackout drunkeness and the fact that she's had unprotected sex with you without really knowing you well.
I don't know why you're kicking good sex to the curb. Is she getting on your nerves? Interfering in other aspects of your life? Hey, maybe you're seeking a deeper relationship. Nothing wrong with that.
I am a bit older. Haha. Just got a text from her. She is driving home from the bar drunk. Call me crazy buy when a girl drinks more than I do, I think it is kind of a turn off. There really is a big maturity level between 24 and 28. The sex is good. But unless this one turns her act around I don't see it working out.
Aiken_Drum
Master Don Juan
Yeah man, I understand that being a turn off, it would be the same for me.
I think she must be in a hard situation, being in a new city and all. Maybe she's recurring to that much alcohol because she's insecure?
Anyway man, do whatever feels better for you, and remember, the next girl is JUST around the corner
I think she must be in a hard situation, being in a new city and all. Maybe she's recurring to that much alcohol because she's insecure?
Anyway man, do whatever feels better for you, and remember, the next girl is JUST around the corner
underoath777
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Do what makes you happy man.
You certainly come off as more mature; you know what you want and you aren't gonna take anyone's sh!t.
See how it goes, but if not, do your thing and next her
You certainly come off as more mature; you know what you want and you aren't gonna take anyone's sh!t.
See how it goes, but if not, do your thing and next her
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Yeah. I was in a similar situation with a 25 year old girl very recently.althea78 said:
Drank too much. Partied too much. It'd be 10pm Tuesday night, we're chilling in her apartment, and I'd hear "Let's go out and get a drink." I'm thinking "B1tch, it's Tuesday. I'm 28 and I have a job."
Probably one of the hotter girls I've dated, but hotness wears off when you realize you're taking some party skank out to dinner, treating her like a real woman.
If you just wanted a f*** buddy, I'd advise you to keep her. But it sounds like you want a woman...and what you have right now is a girl. Drunk, oversexed, and immature. Might as well dump her. Feel free to send her my way though...I always have a soft spot in my heart for women with questionable morals. Until I get tired of them 2 weeks later.
Aiken_Drum
Master Don Juan
Ha, LOL at your last phrase :rockon:Iceberg said:
Anyway, I get what you mean with younger girls. I've dating a little piece of legal jailbait, and her immaturity is f**king annoying.
She'll start complaining about the most stupid things :cuss:
Anyway, she has crazy push and pull game, and I've been learning LOTS from her, TRULY!
You can learn a lot by watching the enemy
(mega kidding about the enemy!).thedude4242
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if this girl is not what you want who cares. she doesnt have to be your girlfriend or somebody you got to make your girlfriend. just b/c you have sex with her doesnt mean she has to be some woman you like ot love or want to qualify as your girlfriend. go have sex with her and enjoy it.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
don't knock her up. get her on something for birth control.