So I am in the friend zone, I know great right? Well I am crazy about this girl and I do want to be with her, and taking stupid advice I told her I liked her and that we should be more than friends. She told me she didnt know how she felt and she felt confused, etc. She also said that she felt comfortable around me and could be herself and act stupid silly, whatever. So because she said this this obviously pissed me off but I did not show it. After reading through PUA stuff and psychology things I realized that I had changed. Before I was able to go out and hook up with girls and have fun but because I started liking my best friend I reverted to almost like a girl (extremely emotionally). I snapped out of it and said to myself that I need to act like a man again. Of course I still like her but I didnt want to look like a p*ssy (overly needy or desperate). So last weekend I went out with a mutual friend of ours for her bday in the city. I walked into the club confident and back to being the man I was before I started like my best friend. I actually had the choice between 3 girls! I chose one and hooked up with her. Pretty sure that our mutual friend told my best friend that I stayed over this girls house and hooked up with her, which Im glad to cause some type of jealousy. So I basically used the self-fulling prophecy principle last weekend that I looked good and girls wanted me and it worked. Also, me not hanging out with my best friend last weekend worked (scarcity principle) because I would hang out with her each weekend. She actually texted me that night that she missed me. So for Halloween weekend me, my best friend, and her 2 friends went to a crazy club in the city. Me and my friend drank and also did Molly and we were both pretty wasted. She was really cold and she took my hands to warm her up (in my head I was like whatever she's cold). Then she said none of us here are hooking up with one other. So I responded with well I am hooking up with a girl tonight. I got up to get a drink (meanwhile she already had 2 drinks in front of her) and she followed me to the bar. She grabbed my arm and rested her head on my shoulder, then she grabbed my hand, and was rubbing my back. I didn't completely ignore it cuz we she grabbed my hand we were like massaging our hands. Then we went to the dance floor and we were all dancing like maniacs but I went to her guy friend and told him I am going to make out with a random girl. I found some girl, danced with her for like 3 seconds, and then made out with her. Then I walked away and continued dancing. Throughout the night I danced up to the DJ booth (I was really wasted) and was kinda just raging by myself and then I would turn around and my best friend was there. So in my head I was thinking that with all that went down and her following me that she is getting more attracted to me and I am slowly digging my way out of the friend zone. Only problem was at one point when we were raging she said, "your like my best friend." This kind of bothered me of course but I pretended like I didnt hear it and I didnt respond. Her second to last bf of like 6 years was her best friend and almost like a brother to her but things went south in their relationship. So I was wondering what do you guys think? Did I hook her yet? When she grabbed my arm and laid her head on me after she followed me to the bar, was that a sign of her being more attracted to me?
P.S.- Like I said earlier I really do like this girl and could see myself in a long term relationship with her, so this is a long work in progress. I've read articles that girls fall in love much much slower than guys do and their perception on a guy can change in a second, month, year, days, whatever. I am not going to dwell on her and put her on a pedestal like I used to. I am going to keep going out with or without her, having fun, and hooking up with random girls until she realizes what I am to her. I feel that using the scarcity principle and a bit of jealousy has worked as of recent.
P.S.- Like I said earlier I really do like this girl and could see myself in a long term relationship with her, so this is a long work in progress. I've read articles that girls fall in love much much slower than guys do and their perception on a guy can change in a second, month, year, days, whatever. I am not going to dwell on her and put her on a pedestal like I used to. I am going to keep going out with or without her, having fun, and hooking up with random girls until she realizes what I am to her. I feel that using the scarcity principle and a bit of jealousy has worked as of recent.
