"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Did I just hit a Low?

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By now most of you DJ's here (westcoaster, francisco, joker, and the others) know about my experience with the Harry Houdini chic who dissapeared on me after a hot ass date, and an email the following day saying "she wants to come over again".

Well, still haven't heard from her. Been over a week. I don't think this is a test anymore. She totally flaked. It'd be nice if she had the decency of telling me WHY. Decency with women these days? LOL that's a joke.

So instead of sarging, my lazy ass just called up an EX (who still wants me) and set up a dinner date tonight. Is this hitting a low?


foreign girls are looking better and better!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you're seeing women as the resolution factor to you feeling unwanted.

its not a new low, its just not in your best interests.

J
 

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Hey joker I left you out of the list my bad.

Check the post again I edited it.
 

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my answer remains the same. you're looking to heal your wounded ego with another woman. women aren't the problem and women aren't the solution.

women are a problem when you want them mor than they want you. this is why it is so critical to know you are the prize.

now when i say that most guys think "ah, ok, i have to get her to think im the prize"

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

You ARE the prize, regardless of what SHE thinks.

if she's too blind to know you are the prize, NEXT. on to the next one.

99% of the problems guys have is seeking validation from women. and 99% of the reason they don't get it is because they are seeking it.

you know when a woman says "does my butt look fat?" what do you want to say (although don't) "Ya, its fat, go on a diet"

its a natural reaction to react to insecurity with distain. now if she said "You know, i really love my ass" you're response would be "so do i baby"

when men KNOW they are the prize women believe it. when men seek validation from a woman its like asking "I'm a prize right? do you think im a prize? please tell me im a prize"

go out with the ex if you really want to. not because some other chic hasn't called you back.

J
 

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I just brushed up on my Doc Love. He reminded me of something important. Women can't say 'No'. They say it with their actions and we have to remember that. So your woman said 'No' by not getting in touch with you again. Yeah, it'd be nice if they told us why they did things, but they don't (and they can't). They just aren't like us.

I would even go as far as saying she faked interest in you, and it showed by her not following through with her words.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is it possible this chic wanted me to f@ck her on the first date? Maybe she was a slut?

We made out but I didn't try to take it any further.

Maybe I should have?

Is it possible the fact I didn't try to bang her turned her off???
 

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Originally posted by joekerr31
my answer remains the same. you're looking to heal your wounded ego with another woman. women aren't the problem and women aren't the solution.

women are a problem when you want them mor than they want you. this is why it is so critical to know you are the prize.

now when i say that most guys think "ah, ok, i have to get her to think im the prize"

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

You ARE the prize, regardless of what SHE thinks.

if she's too blind to know you are the prize, NEXT. on to the next one.

99% of the problems guys have is seeking validation from women. and 99% of the reason they don't get it is because they are seeking it.

you know when a woman says "does my butt look fat?" what do you want to say (although don't) "Ya, its fat, go on a diet"

its a natural reaction to react to insecurity with distain. now if she said "You know, i really love my ass" you're response would be "so do i baby"

when men KNOW they are the prize women believe it. when men seek validation from a woman its like asking "I'm a prize right? do you think im a prize? please tell me im a prize"

go out with the ex if you really want to. not because some other chic hasn't called you back.

J

Well I have nothing to do tonight, so it'd be nice to get out.

Plus I haven't seen this girl in awhile. I know she still wants me, but I have 0 feelings for her.

Hell maybe I'll get a BJ tonight, that's always an ego boost :)


Is it possible the Harry Houdini chic wanted me to f@ck her on the first date? Maybe she was a slut?

We made out but I didn't try to take it any further.

Maybe I should have?

Is it possible the fact I didn't try to bang her turned her off???
 

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recipe for disaster = second guessing everything you did based on a womans reaction.


dude, if you're the prize shes the one that lost out. stop second guessing.

maybe she was a slut and wanted to get banged. maybe you just saved yourself a case of HIV.

J
 

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Originally posted by joekerr31
recipe for disaster = second guessing everything you did based on a womans reaction.


dude, if you're the prize shes the one that lost out. stop second guessing.

maybe she was a slut and wanted to get banged. maybe you just saved yourself a case of HIV.

J

true dat !

I'm over that wierdo .. actually looking forward to my date tonight... she's a sexy latina chic.
 

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Originally posted by joekerr31
my answer remains the same. you're looking to heal your wounded ego with another woman. women aren't the problem and women aren't the solution.

women are a problem when you want them mor than they want you. this is why it is so critical to know you are the prize.

now when i say that most guys think "ah, ok, i have to get her to think im the prize"

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

You ARE the prize, regardless of what SHE thinks.

if she's too blind to know you are the prize, NEXT. on to the next one.

99% of the problems guys have is seeking validation from women. and 99% of the reason they don't get it is because they are seeking it.

you know when a woman says "does my butt look fat?" what do you want to say (although don't) "Ya, its fat, go on a diet"

its a natural reaction to react to insecurity with distain. now if she said "You know, i really love my ass" you're response would be "so do i baby"

when men KNOW they are the prize women believe it. when men seek validation from a woman its like asking "I'm a prize right? do you think im a prize? please tell me im a prize"

go out with the ex if you really want to. not because some other chic hasn't called you back.

J

BLing!
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I know this is sad, but I just sarged another chic off match.

She's cute, I got her #, and she's practically begging me to call her lol..

Let's see how this one goes. She's currently "Seperated" but NO KIDS. YAY! So now I get the chance to bang a married chic.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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