"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Did i just get Sh*t Tested?! (short)

cfdagola

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i've never seen this kind of agressive attitude coming from this chick. she's always so receptive and flirty and just a good time. usually she'll call for stuff like this. however this time it was text.

Her: I'm going up to campus to get some work done today. i actually have work tomorrow at 5:30 (we planned last thursday to meet tomorrow)

Me: what time you going up?
Her: IDK
Her: Why did you call me yesterday (i called her twice)
Me: i wanted to tell you about a development in our business arrangement. regardless. want to meet at 2:45 on campus?

Her: I'm pretty much giving up on our business arrangement. And idk if i want to commit to going up to campus so early.
Me: Why the change?
Her: because its not working
Me: Supply and demand works in our favor. demand is up. which means all we need is supply. which is coming. regardless. you're free to make that choice.
Me: I think there's other factors involved. but that's on you to share.

Her: What do you mean? You know absolutely nothing.
Me: (didn't text her back)

couple things. she was super excited to make some extra cash. however things have been slow with supply. been having problems locking that down. so last quarter she overspent and got under paid. by a lot.

also i told her to always come at me direct and be straight forward. however this is aggressiveness i've not seen from her. we're both under stress and she's even more under stress because right in the middle of the semester she has to go to drunk camp for 4 days. so she'll be missing project start dates and be generally behind in class by a lot.

Si*t Test or not. I felt a non response was best because there was no way to spin that. also i was pretty heated at that comment because i know more than she thinks and she knows it to.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Vidrio

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Idk about a sh!t test, but she disrespected you. Not responding was ideal. Is she a coworker or what? You didn't give enough detail.
 

cfdagola

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Vidrio said:
Idk about a sh!t test, but she disrespected you. Not responding was ideal. Is she a coworker or what? You didn't give enough detail.
she works FOR me. i approached her about the offer when we started to become closer friends and i could gauge her a little bit better about what kinda person she was.

so i guess she's a coworker.

details about our arrangement is a non issue.

thanks for the reply. i really do feel that a non response was the best response. considering i will see her next week or if she calls/txt to meet up to help each other on this project we got. not talkign to her is ALSO a non issue.

thing is we've never been down this road of disrespect we've always been straight shooters with each other. helping each other. and just generally supporting each other through probably the hardest semester we've had together. not understanding why she's choosing now to be agressive.
 

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Its because she can smell the desperate on you. Just let it go, she is on to you big time. Also **** this b!tch, she is being a giant c^nt for no reason.
 

cfdagola

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Kbomb said:
Its because she can smell the desperate on you. Just let it go, she is on to you big time. Also **** this b!tch, she is being a giant c^nt for no reason.
what desperation?

other than the calls yesterday.

the last time i said a word to her in ANY capacity was thursday.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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