Did I handle this properly?

[captain55]

I completely ghosted my ex of two years. No closure nothing.

Two days ago I was at an event with her and in the car she proceeded to tell me how superior she was to everyone she works with and how much better she was. (She did this all the time throughout me dating her ) I was also talking about buying a house with her and where we want to spend our life and as I am discussing these serious things with her all she keeps talking about is how she wants to get her boobs done. (Meanwhile she has no career and is a bartender). She is entitled, narcissistic, cant handle her liquor and lacks empathy...definitely shown some traits of bpd.


1. Should you give narcissistic/bpd women closure? Or is it a waste with them? I felt like in this case it was better to say nothing at all. Part of me feels terrible about it
2. I don't like the idea of her being with someone else especially when I have control over it. But I know I had to leave her ...because it would never of worked. I'm having a hard time coping with this.

She treated me like **** throughout the relationship when I really tried...so I didn't feel the need to give her any closure. This was a very impulsive decision on my end and she doesn't understand why I left but I went with my gut..I don't feel like I'm ready to date other people at all yet tho

 

[Joji]

(I'm pretty young to be giving advice so take what I say with a grain of salt)

1. You shouldn't have to ghost her, remove that narcissistic chick out of your life. You don't need her negative vibes in your life anyway. You tried to make it work, when it wasn't working. There's nothing more to be done. Also you shouldn't feel terrible since 1. You went with your gut (trusting your gut is the DJ'S ultimate weapon) 2.

2. She deserves being ghosted so Kudos to you. There's no need for closure move on man and keep those plates spinning! If you don't feel like dating other people you don't have to. Just make sure to spin plates!

P.S. Your ex sounds like a Complete B!tch,

Good Luck
~A Young Pook

 

[Serenity]

I mean if you can't handle just saying it's over because you were unhappy with the relationship, then sure the alternative is to just go silent. I would have declared it over though and maybe give a single sentence reason if she asked why. Anything more than that though and I'd just go silent. No discussion, further explanation or lengthy argument. Just state what you're doing with a very simple why and stop responding if she can't face it. Alternatively firmly tell her there's no reversing your decision, might make her give up bothering you quicker.

Result is the same though, it's over.

 

[TheGambino]

Fvck her and erase her with NC.