Did I handle this ex well??

[nishbuk]

My Ex recently dumped me, and I've been getting over it pretty quick. I'm bootcamping again to get back in the swing of things, and going to a few parties this week.
Anyway, the reason I ask is because this Ex is a friend of one of my close friends that is a girl. So I can't just go all ****face on her, cause that will lower my respect level from my friend that is a girl. So anyway, I cut off all contact after the breakup, but she re-initiated contact since she wanted a favor from me, and purportedly no other reason I can see. (what disrespect eh?) Anyway, here are the e-mails. Did I handle this okay?

This is her
I'm really sorry to be writing you like this. I was going to call you as soon as my phone line was set up (but that has been a complete farce), so instead I'm writing to ask you a favour. Isn't that charming.

I'm really sorry about this, but I'm locked out of my house this weekend, and I was wondering if you knew where my extra key is? I'm at "XXXX's" house today, but her mom is comming tonight, and instead of sleeping on the street (or the more likely option - hiring a locksmith) I was wondering if you still had my key.

I hope you've been doing well. I understand that you went back home for a bit after all. I hope you're having a good time and that your family's ok.

Note: "XXXX" is my friend that is a girl that I don't want to lose ground with.

This is me
Hi,
I don't really remember...I thought that I gave that key to "YYYY". Although, now that I think about it, I don't actually recall a specific incident where I physically gave it to her. I may have told her she could drop by my house open my door and pick it up her self. I'm not really sure if that's what happened. If it's in my room or my house somewhere, I don't know. My roomate should be there now if you want to take a look.

Unfortunately, well-intentioned parents sometimes have a terrible way of scheduling flights without consulting me that put a real damper on my school plans. I guess there certainly are pressing matters at home which would warrant my attention to be focused in their direction.
Oh Well...

her reply
Hey,

Thanks for writing back. I ended up having to get a locksmith, so if you ever find the key you can just chuck it.

About school - are you going to get back in time for your make-up exam? I hope everything's ok at home, although I know it's probably a bit of a mess right now. If you ever need any moral support let me know.

Hopefully I'll see you when you get back.

Note: Moral Support?!?!?! WTF is she smoking?!

My reply, hopefully my final and last reply
Thanks for the offer, but I have many friends I can lean on for moral support, and I'm not really looking for anything from you right now.

Later,

Do you think that was pretty clear that I don't need her anymore? Should I have just not replied at all? I dunno...

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

I wouldn't have responded, but it doesn't matter now. Whatever you do, do not allow this girl to sucker you back into a relationship.

 

[nishbuk]

Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
I wouldn't have responded, but it doesn't matter now. Whatever you do, do not allow this girl to sucker you back into a relationship.

Well. Obviously any ex, you shouldn't get back with. But when you say "don't let her sucker you back", is there something in her e-mail that makes it even more important?

 

[Wyldfire]

I think whether or not you handled it right depends on why you went home. Was there a death in the family or a serious illness or anything? If you went home for something important that would be upsetting her concern was actually probably genuine. She doesn't sound like she's trying to upset you in any way. In fact, she sounded pretty mature and like overall she's a pretty decent person. (But I can only go on what is in the post).

Your responses were definitely fine at least up until the last response. It really didn't sound like she was trying to lure you into anything or keep you hanging. It really sounded like sincere concern. It probably would have been better if you just said "I'm doing fine, so I don't think I'll take you up on that, but thanks for the offer."

What you wrote made you sound kind of angry, like you are still upset over the breakup. I'm guessing that wasn't the impression you wanted to leave her with, but unfortunately, that's probably what she's thinking.

 

[nishbuk]

I didn't go home cause she broke up with me. Hardly. I had an exam that I wanted to study for and complete on Aug 25th, but my frickin parents scheduled me a flight home (Without even consulting me) probably because they want me here to deal with their bull**** as well (they are getting divorced).
So no, I in no way went home for her. I went home because my parents booked me a ticket behind my back.

Also,
considering that she has absolutely no frickin idea the other things that are going on in my life (see next paragraph), since I found out about them on the exact same day she broke up with me, I doubt she's seriously concerned about my life. And even if she was, it doesn't really matter. I have about 5 extremely close friends who I can depend on, and numerous others who can help me as well. I don't need her in the slightest.

(My parents are getting divorced, my grandma is hospitalized and dying, and my dad lost his job, endangering my college education. My mom has no real way to support herself, so who knows how the **** she's going to continue living. These are the real problems in my life right now, of which she does not know)

Her rationalization and motivation is probably more like:
"I don't want to be percieved like a ***** by him, so I'll act like I'm concerned about whatever is happening, even though I don't know what that is, to control his perception of me".

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Hmmm...interesting that your ex contacted you again. Did you guys break up on good terms or was it ugly? Her e-mail didn't seem like it had a hidden agenda but you never know with an ex.

If your "friend" really is your friend, it should't matter what you think about your ex. I know she's friends with your ex too, but that shouldn't have any baring on your friendship with the other chick. Do yourself a favor, don't talk about your ex with your "friend." Girls are ALWAYS ALWAYS more loyal to their own kind. She'll tell her everything. If she does ask you anything about your ex, just dance around the question.


On a different note, good luck with your family, hope everything works out. God bless!


PIMP

 

[nishbuk]

Originally posted by Pimp-sicle
Hmmm...interesting that your ex contacted you again. Did you guys break up on good terms or was it ugly?

Here's how we broke up. It was August 1st, so it's only been 22 days:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=80450&highlight=First+time+been