Did I go wrong?

[babsan]

There was this girl at work. She's classy and we have a lot in common, so I tried to date her. Loved talking to her at work, but I tried not to make the affection obvious because I like my position in the company. Only flirted when we were alone, but didn't touch her.

She was leaving the company, so I got her number to stay in touch. SMSed her while I was on a holiday to ask how's it going at the company. I knew the company decided to have her working there for a bit longer. Kinda indirect, because I was also wondering how the people were working with the system me and a mate have introduced in the company.

When I got back I SMSed to get together for a drink after she was done working. No response. Called her in the evening. She didn't pick up. Was this my low? I think she knew she doesn't have to chase from then on. Asking for a first date in a text message is bad right?

Next week I had some good convo's with here again and DHV'ed. All the colleagues were asking me stuff etc. I was helping all the women in the company out. So I thought she wanted to grab a drink after work on Friday. But nah, she had shopping to do. Okay... Told her I would have had limited time as well (true) and went home.

I think the shopping excuse was true, however I didn't take it lightly. Gave her the gift of missing me for a week and called her last night. She didn't pick up again.

So basically she responded to one of my SMSs. Is there any hope? She is kind of busy with her new place, but I thought she would pick up her phone because of all the rapport. If she never does, I'm on a dead end track.

btw: on the side I am doing some feeling good approaches, but I 'forget' to close too much.

 

[socalrunner]

if she would rather go shopping then hang out with you...fvck her, move on, find another girl who is actually worth your time.

 

[kdnash82]

Best advice for this will be to erase her phone number from your phone, then erase her pretty face from your memory. Get out there and find someone else. You lost this one with the first text message. Next time a girl gives you her number, call her and set up a date. That's the whole point of getting the number. You don't call to talk. That's for her girlfriends, gay guy friends, and guy friends who might as well be gay.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

First off, she's not interested in you. While you might have had several great conversations with her, the fact is that she was being polite and enjoying your company in the workplace.

The fact that you've attempted to contact her several times over the past couple weeks without a positive response should tell you all you need to know. It was definitely not a good idea to ask her out over a text message, that's a weak frame to work with and she can give you a million excuses for that.

Last thing: You cannot give a girl who has no interest in you, the gift of missing you.

NEXT!!




PIMP

 

[The Sperminator]

Omg dude stop it already. Quit calling her and texting her. Shes not interested and now shes probably creeped out. Just because a girl has good conversations with you doesn't mean she wants to date you. Take a hint and stop before she tells everyone you are harassing her.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

Keep doing what your doing - it makes my life SO much easier picking up women if guys like yourself are 'trying' to arrange dates by text

 

[babsan]

I texted her while she was working. Would be weird to call with her while she is around colleagues who I worked with for months. I wanna next her, but she might never call/text then. If I only had one shot on the phone, I could set up a meet and take it from there... Or does this sound too desperate? I know, I know: it screams oneitis to say she is unlike most other women in a better way. Oh well, I'll charge it to the game.

 

[kdnash82]

This is a joke right? Nobody is this sad right?

 

[Someone Much cooler]

nope he is for real. Whats you deal man? You ain't got her now so save your self esteem (runnin low) and fall back. Stop textin its for wimps and girls