Did I go too beta on this?

[l_e_g_e_n_d]

She is 38.

And you're 34? She's about 14 years too old for you ...

 

[devilkingx2]

she's full of **** she was totally gonna try and bang that guy, assuming you were actually concerned with getting an STD then you did everything fine carry on as normal

assuming it was just an excuse for her to not start fvcking another guy, then you're letting your insecurity get the better of you, be less attached and find another plate

 

[Juanto]

And you're 34? She's about 14 years too old for you ...

Yes, I´m 34

 

[Juanto]

she's full of **** she was totally gonna try and bang that guy, assuming you were actually concerned with getting an STD then you did everything fine carry on as normal

assuming it was just an excuse for her to not start fvcking another guy, then you're letting your insecurity get the better of you, be less attached and find another plate

The thing is, we never had "the" talk or any talk regarding exclusivity, but she then said she would not meet the guy later because she didnt want me even to think she would contemplate sleeping with another guy while seeing me. Dont know what to make of this, in my mind we are NOT nor ever been exclusive to this point.

 

[pyros]

1. It doesnt matter what she thinks, it matters WHAT YOU THINK.
2. She told you about dinner with her teacher to make you jelaous.
3. She probably wanted to fvck him if you did not show any jealousy.
4. You're not in a relationship, ok, so what? if she does something you dont like you just kick her to the curb.
No need to over-analyse so much.
5. I wouldn't trust what she says or does if I were you.

 

[Juanto]

1. It doesnt matter what she thinks, it matters WHAT YOU THINK.
2. She told you about dinner with her teacher to make you jelaous.
3. She probably wanted to fvck him if you did not show any jealousy.
4. You're not in a relationship, ok, so what? if she does something you dont like you just kick her to the curb.
No need to over-analyse so much.
5. I wouldn't trust what she says or does if I were you.

You are correct, I will just proceed with what I was doing before, just having fun and hooking up.

 

[Juanto]

she's full of **** she was totally gonna try and bang that guy, assuming you were actually concerned with getting an STD then you did everything fine carry on as normal

assuming it was just an excuse for her to not start fvcking another guy, then you're letting your insecurity get the better of you, be less attached and find another plate

I was concerned with STD´s but at the same time the way that it went it probably showed some insecurity from my side.

At the time she also asked me if I had any "similar" situations in my past with other girls (in fact asking if was cheated on or something like that) to which I said no, never. But again, we never talked about being in a relationship ourselves.

 

[devilkingx2]

The thing is, we never had "the" talk or any talk regarding exclusivity, but she then said she would not meet the guy later because she didnt want me even to think she would contemplate sleeping with another guy while seeing me. Dont know what to make of this, in my mind we are NOT nor ever been exclusive to this point.

I was concerned with STD´s but at the same time the way that it went it probably showed some insecurity from my side.

At the time she also asked me if I had any "similar" situations in my past with other girls (in fact asking if was cheated on or something like that) to which I said no, never. But again, we never talked about being in a relationship ourselves.

it almost sounds like she has a clever plan to get you to be exclusive in the works

 

[CMNILS87]

38 years old ehh. It's a **** test when a girl says stuff like that or does it. Case I point. My main girl always says she gets hit on at the bar while dealing blackjack. Comes with the territory. I chuckle, tease her, and move on after she texts me some gibberish. Out of sight out of mind. If she's been bounking you this long she probably does have some feelings towards you. If she values you enough, you could even power move and say, "hey, we're not exclusive, but I won't spend time with a girl that's intimate with other men at the same time". It is an ultimatum, but the ultimate test of frame even as casual partners. If she brings it up even better

 

[Juanto]

It's a **** test when a girl says stuff like that or does it

Did I fumble the football in the way I handled it?

 

[exhausted]

You are correct, I will just proceed with what I was doing before, just having fun and hooking up.

U may have slipped just a bit but carry on with the attitude that you dont **** around with girls who may bring back a disease, which could be a life ruiner for you.

 

[exhausted]

38 years old ehh. It's a **** test when a girl says stuff like that or does it. Case I point. My main girl always says she gets hit on at the bar while dealing blackjack. Comes with the territory. I chuckle, tease her, and move on after she texts me some gibberish. Out of sight out of mind. If she's been bounking you this long she probably does have some feelings towards you. If she values you enough, you could even power move and say, "hey, we're not exclusive, but I won't spend time with a girl that's intimate with other men at the same time". It is an ultimatum, but the ultimate test of frame even as casual partners. If she brings it up even better

I agree here. He did do well about making it about diseases and his safety, not about his jealousy of another man or he wants to be exclusive.
Spinning plates is good for yourself but do we as men look or behave Alpha if we let on to know to a girl that she bangs other guys and then we accept it and bang them?
I think it is more attractive that we dont put up with that where we look weak or desperate allowing another man to be with any type of woman we are involved with rather a Plate or ltr. Just dont go looking jealous about it but aloof as if oh other guys ok and just move on.

 

[ubercat]

@exhausted I m curious about that approach. The current landscape of evolutionary biology and social theory seems to be that women are designed to slvt around but are willing to forgo promiscuity to secure control of a man's resources. For example the latest research shows that the incidence of me and unknowingly raising a child that is not theirs is about 5% not the mythical 20% . So is demanding exclusive sexual access to a plate likely to work?

Note I say likely - principles never apply 100%

 

[exhausted]

@exhausted I m curious about that approach. The current landscape of evolutionary biology and social theory seems to be that women are designed to slvt around but are willing to forgo promiscuity to secure control of a man's resources. For example the latest research shows that the incidence of me and unknowingly raising a child that is not theirs is about 5% not the mythical 20% . So is demanding exclusive sexual access to a plate likely to work?

Note I say likely - principles never apply 100%

I am confused on the wording how would u unknowingly raise a child that is not theirs??

Woman are programmed to only be intimate with one guy at a time if more than one they are a slut. I am halfway thro the Rational Male.

 

[ubercat]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sperm_competition

Most sperm cells are designed to kill another man's sperm. So it seems likely that women are programmed to seek a selection of the best genetic material they can find

 

[Juanto]

I agree here. He did do well about making it about diseases and his safety, not about his jealousy of another man or he wants to be exclusive.
Spinning plates is good for yourself but do we as men look or behave Alpha if we let on to know to a girl that she bangs other guys and then we accept it and bang them?
I think it is more attractive that we dont put up with that where we look weak or desperate allowing another man to be with any type of woman we are involved with rather a Plate or ltr. Just dont go looking jealous about it but aloof as if oh other guys ok and just move on.

Sound advice, thanks.

 

[CMNILS87]

@exhausted I m curious about that approach. The current landscape of evolutionary biology and social theory seems to be that women are designed to slvt around but are willing to forgo promiscuity to secure control of a man's resources. For example the latest research shows that the incidence of me and unknowingly raising a child that is not theirs is about 5% not the mythical 20% . So is demanding exclusive sexual access to a plate likely to work?

Note I say likely - principles never apply 100%

If the man demanding "exclusive sex", not a relationship per se, is better than her other options I don't see why she wouldn't just relinquish control. The reason you see more women sleeping around or so the statistics say, is because women have more choices, and they won't be cast out of society if she's found to be cheating. Women are a product of their environment. Do a lot of women believe in being faithful on paper, in religion, to only one man.....,sure they do. But we all know that is over ridden by the "feels".

1.Women aren't shamed/killed anymore for cheating
2.State takes care of them
3.More options in men everywhere

 

[exhausted]

If the man demanding "exclusive sex", not a relationship per se, is better than her other options I don't see why she wouldn't just relinquish control. The reason you see more women sleeping around or so the statistics say, is because women have more choices, and they won't be cast out of society if she's found to be cheating. Women are a product of their environment. Do a lot of women believe in being faithful on paper, in religion, to only one man.....,sure they do. But we all know that is over ridden by the "feels".

1.Women aren't shamed/killed anymore for cheating
2.State takes care of them
3.More options in men everywhere

They have more choices due to the cowards that can use social media to reach out to a broad who is already taken and orbit and secondly woman have no morals or shame to be loyal. They divorce in a heartbeat and are really narcissitic low lifes when u compare them to our parents and grandparents. There is of course the occossional good girl but very hard to find.