Kailex
Master Don Juan
She doesn't feel bad that you are sick. A woman that is that interested in you would want to take care of you even if it meant slapping on a Hazmat suit. That's just filler. Ignore her text and move along.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Did I give myself away too easily?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Noted guys, the advice has been straight and to the point.
I'll give you guys a quick update, I did not respond to her "I feel bad that you're sickm
" text.
about 4 hours later she texted the below regarding a show I had discussed with mutual friends that I liked but she had no interest in.
Her:I'm checking out the first episode of the strain and all I can say is damn pretty cool show
I waited 20 mins and responded with
Me: Yes, don't get scared
Her: I like scary, have you watched it?
Me: yes
Her: OMG did not see that coming, sean astin in on it did you?
Me: No
Her: This is crazy
Her: I love it already
Me: knew u would
her: you know me well
I stopped responding to her, I'm no DJ but I get the sense that she might have tried to give me a sh!t test or overplayed her cards with the mind games.
I'll give you guys a quick update, I did not respond to her "I feel bad that you're sickm
" text.about 4 hours later she texted the below regarding a show I had discussed with mutual friends that I liked but she had no interest in.
Her:I'm checking out the first episode of the strain and all I can say is damn pretty cool show
I waited 20 mins and responded with
Me: Yes, don't get scared
Her: I like scary, have you watched it?
Me: yes
Her: OMG did not see that coming, sean astin in on it did you?
Me: No
Her: This is crazy
Her: I love it already
Me: knew u would
her: you know me well
I stopped responding to her, I'm no DJ but I get the sense that she might have tried to give me a sh!t test or overplayed her cards with the mind games.
It's now been about 4 hours since I stopped replying to her and she once again reached out with a text.
text.
Hey What's up?
I'm starting to get the feeling she is breaking, my first reaction has been the wrong one every time so I figure I discuss it with you bros before proceeding.
I want to wait a lil and then say out to dinner
or maybe respond with a chillin and see where she goes from there.
text.
Hey What's up?
I'm starting to get the feeling she is breaking, my first reaction has been the wrong one every time so I figure I discuss it with you bros before proceeding.
I want to wait a lil and then say out to dinner
or maybe respond with a chillin and see where she goes from there.
usernamedox11
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You're seriously being ridiculous. The fact you are analyzing every stupid statement tells me your reputation for being a womanizer is BS (already thought so after you said you met her in a fvcking game). If you want to smash, ask her to hang out with you. That's it. If she doesn't want to, you can stop wasting your time.mdb730 said:
Kailex
Master Don Juan
mdb730 said:
Honestly, you aren't doing anything to make her wonder what the hell is going on.
You should have met those texts with silence. Do not say anymore to her. You just became her chatty friend on text messages. STOP TEXTING BACK. You either text back "Let's go out on XXX day" or don't respond at all.
If there was a sh!t test there, you failed it be responding. Men don't have time to be texting back about a show, much less in such a friendly manner.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Thank you all for your advice, I took what some of you guys said and applied it to the situation and tried to give you all an update on what was happening by using the advice given by the experienced DJs
This is the results
After those text about the show I went silent, she texted again asking what's up and I ignored that, she called me 3 times and I picked up the 3rd time.
Me: What ? I'm busy I'll call you back later
Her: Ok.. can we talk I'm going for dinner with [random friend] in an hour
Me: Might not be done by then call you back later [ I hung up ]
I called her back later and she told me she had not gone out with her friend because she wanted to talk. She said she was sorry if it seemed like she blew me off and was sorry if I was angry. I told her what another DJ here suggested and told her I was a man, that I was honest with her and told her where she stands with me, if she can't handle that I don't have time to waste. She asked if we were still on for Sunday and I told her I had already made plans so she said she was off this wed and would love to see me. I told her I might not be feeling better by then so I will call her wed afternoon. She tried to explain why she sent the text but I told her I was tired and needed to rest to recover.
After all this BS I know I can't try to make this chick my girl.
BTW nothing wrong with playing video games, I'm no DJ but I know how to make woman laugh and I find that's half the battle.My main problem is I have a hyper thyroid that when it's unbalance I get extreme anxiety and can't control it without beta blockers or anxiety meds.
This is the results
After those text about the show I went silent, she texted again asking what's up and I ignored that, she called me 3 times and I picked up the 3rd time.
Me: What ? I'm busy I'll call you back later
Her: Ok.. can we talk I'm going for dinner with [random friend] in an hour
Me: Might not be done by then call you back later [ I hung up ]
I called her back later and she told me she had not gone out with her friend because she wanted to talk. She said she was sorry if it seemed like she blew me off and was sorry if I was angry. I told her what another DJ here suggested and told her I was a man, that I was honest with her and told her where she stands with me, if she can't handle that I don't have time to waste. She asked if we were still on for Sunday and I told her I had already made plans so she said she was off this wed and would love to see me. I told her I might not be feeling better by then so I will call her wed afternoon. She tried to explain why she sent the text but I told her I was tired and needed to rest to recover.
After all this BS I know I can't try to make this chick my girl.
BTW nothing wrong with playing video games, I'm no DJ but I know how to make woman laugh and I find that's half the battle.My main problem is I have a hyper thyroid that when it's unbalance I get extreme anxiety and can't control it without beta blockers or anxiety meds.
Man this girl has clear interest in you, dont make it complicated. She will do anything for you (she gave everything out by suddenly being available this wednesday).
Please, keep it simple, dont over play mind games. She IS playing them, just do what you want with her, YOU are clearly leading this relationship. If you want to meet her, tell her when you want to see her, she will be there for you. Just be fun and avoid "deep" conversation about feelings/relationship, I am pretty sure she is even ready for a move from you. Check Anti-Dump guide, perfect for you this girl has interest, you just need to maintain it.
Please, keep it simple, dont over play mind games. She IS playing them, just do what you want with her, YOU are clearly leading this relationship. If you want to meet her, tell her when you want to see her, she will be there for you. Just be fun and avoid "deep" conversation about feelings/relationship, I am pretty sure she is even ready for a move from you. Check Anti-Dump guide, perfect for you this girl has interest, you just need to maintain it.