Did I get rejected?

[PandaDude]

Me and this girl had dinner, it went well. She is usually a pretty shy person but she started talking more today. After dinner, I said to her ÿou probably already know this but I like you". She looked down and smiled but said "I didn't know" I didn't ask for a direct answer on how she felt about me but since she didn't say anything I left it at that.

Does this mean I got rejected? Afterall, if she liked me she would've said something, whether or not she's shy.

 

[PandaDude]

So I guess the right thing by not asking directly whether she liked me or not?

Another thing. Her birthday is next week and I already acknowledged her birthday. I bought her dinner cuz of it. I don't know if I should send her like a birthday card or should I give her some space?

 

[iluvfemales]

One thing I have figured out lately is that the response to shock can come off as rejection. When really it's just her not knowing how to deal with the situation

 

[Badmannaz]

u F*cked up when u said "i like you" real men SHOW they like a women instead of saying it...it's the unspoken rule...but i guess in some since it's good...but now your no longer a challenge to her...you've lost power....but she did not reject you..not by the looks of it

 

[paraguayandj]

Yeah you got rejected bYtch. Actually Idk but you came a little too strong.

 

[PandaDude]

So should I even contact this girl at all now or should I wait it out?
I really want to send her a birthday card but I don't know if it wouild seen as coming on too strong, especially since she knows that I know it's her birthday

 

[flexion_]

First Read the DJ bible.

Don't tell a woman you like her. It kills the emotional mystery video game they are playing in their head. It always is very insecure of you to put a woman on the spot and ask them how they feel about you. You assume they like you until they let you know otherwise.

You've essentially screwed up the situation - so call it a rejection if you like.

 

[insidious]

What flexion SAID PandaDude. Yes, I think you made a blunder with that little comment. However, you say this girl is a little shy. Is she short on experience (with men)? Is she kinda sheltered, maybe doesn't get out much?

Basically what I'm saying is that if she is a newcomer to the game, your little screwy revelation shouldn't have done too much damage. Just don't do something like that again. You like her, fine, but there is no reason to verbalize it at the dinner table!!! :woo: Talk about uncomfortable silences LOL

The fact you asked her to dinner is telling, to her. Ask her out again, go for some physical contact, a kiss, you'll be telling her everything she needs to know.

First Read the DJ bible.

Don't tell a woman you like her. It kills the emotional mystery video game they are playing in their head. It always is very insecure of you to put a woman on the spot and ask them how they feel about you. You assume they like you until they let you know otherwise.

You've essentially screwed up the situation - so call it a rejection if you like.

 

[PandaDude]

I don't know how experienced she is with men but I knew that she broke up with her bf in February. Also, I don't know if she is considered sheltered. She is from a very small town though.

The reason why I felt it was necessary for me to tell her how I felt was because I won't see her for another 3 months at least.

I want to contact her now but I don't know how I would go about doing that.

Any hints?

Also, I didn't really ask her to dinner. She wanted me to go shopping with her on Monday but I can't because I had exams. Since that might be the only chance I can meet her for another 3 months, I asked her to dinner on Sunday.