"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Did I Get Played and if so.. what now?

PlayHer Man

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I consider myself a pretty good "player" in the sense that women rarely get over on me. I can usually pick the right women and extract what I want from them. However, I'm not sure what to do with this one woman who recently rejected me.

First I'll admit I made a few beta male mistakes since I met her and I totally understand why I'm in the position I'm in. My question is wondering what to do about it.

Background:

I met her about 3 years ago and we hooked up at a party. After that we just remained friends (first mistake) because I was dating someone else and she was too. She tried to hook up with me again a few times and I turned her down (second mistake). Then we lost touch for a few months. She started ignoring calls and texts so I moved on. Then she finally contacted me only to start ignoring me again (putting up with this was mistake number three).

Finally I got back in touch with her because I decided I wanted to date her. I figured why not? We are both single and we already banged and we still get along well. But to my surprise she shoots me down with the whole "I want to be single right now" crap. I was like WTF? Plus, she took sex off the table. Its basically a friendzoning.

So now I'm not sure what to do with her. She seems to be playing some kind of passive-aggressive twisted game with me. She makes it seem like I have a chance, but she is being very mysterious about it.

At this point I still want to bang her again because she is amazing in bed. Not sure if I should wait her out or just totally drop her from my life.

Did I get played? And if so.. what now?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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VladPatton

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She basically isn't interested anymore. When to much time goes by they loose interest, and once that happens, it's done, regardless if you banged before.

I suggest you move on, leave her be, and seek other girls rather than chase her and give her the power to repeatedly shoot you down. Don't set yourself up for failing.
 

Mike32ct

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I agree with Vlad. When a chick is interested, it is usually a limited time offer. That window of time has expired. I'm sorry man.

Although I'm not sure if she was EVER up for a relationship anyway. Notice how she only b@nged you as a taken guy, not a single one?
 

PlayHer Man

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Thanks guys. I suspected this. I just find it odd that she lead me to believe she was still interested... that is... until I actually came out with the idea of dating her.

Anyway, I think you're both right. She is not worth anymore of my time. I'm moving on 100%.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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