"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Did I get a last minute rejection?

Suprsho

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Alright so I approached this girl, whom i've talked to once before about class and introduced myself briefly, the other day and got her number. The conversation leading up to the # close went pretty well, very natural.

She was asking me a lot of question which i saw it as an interest, but the next day when we were walking out of class, she said "I'm sorry but I didn't know what your intentions were yesterday because I have a boyfriend and I don't think he would like me going to get coffee..." After she said that, I was pretty surprised but acted cool about it and said, "well you can bring him along!" jokingly of course.

When we parted ways, I said its a shame you have a boyfriend, but i'll give you a call this weekend, you and your boyfriend should come out with us.

So my question is should i still call this chick or just forget about it? I was thinking about the conversation we had and there were a few things that stuck out to me so I don't know if she really do have a boyfriend (which won't mind break come in between them it all :up: ) or she's just not interested.

Normally, I wouldn't let a little thing like this get to me, but I think she is super cute and was pretty excited when I got her number, hence this dilemma. haha.

Before this, I really though this girl has some interest in me cause the class is huge, but i alway see her looking towards my direction, and she was very talkative and had good eye contact when we were talking. we talked about class, she asked my where i lived and etc...

I guess i should also noted that we are both asian and when I was getting her number, one of the questions that first came up was what ethicity I was. (I'm chinese, she's either japanese or korean, I didn't ask). When i told her I was chinese she was like, "oh I though you were korean".

So those kinda lead me to think, and this is kind of a stretch, but could this be a cause? lol.

The reason I think this is also because there was one part in the conversation after she told be about having a boyfriend where i said,

Me: I always see you in class and thought you were cute so...
Her: oh we are both asian
Me: haha, whats that suppose to mean?
Her: It means we can be friends...

Honesty, I was pretty bummed out after i learned about the bf, but the whole situation seems kinda funny the more i think about it. :crackup:

some analysis/advice would be appreciated fellers!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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thecurtainfalls

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On to the next target, bud. What are you going to gain from hanging out with this chick and her boyfriend?

It doesn't matter whether it was a cultural thing or whatever, it's not for you to concern yourself with WHY. Trying to figure out a chick's motives is painful and futile. Judge by her actions. Let her see you socializing and flirting with other girls - it may help your value in her eyes, but you shouldn't be doing too much of anything at this point just to get a reaction specifically out of her. Your interests are best served looking elsewhere. Good luck.
 

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Suprsho said:
She was asking me a lot of question which i saw it as an interest,
Yes, but answering them directly removes the interest.

Women like to ponder things and come up with a brazillion possibilities in their own heads. That causes attraction to increase. It's like a soap-opera cliffhanger, really. Leave her always wanting to discover more things about you.

I'm often mistaken for Spanish or Indian (native) depending on where I'm at...east coast or west and it's almost always one of the first questions I'm asked.

I tend to answer "I'm not sure. I never met the mailman!" or "No one has ever asked me that" etc.. and then she's got a burning question that she can't let go of and she'll spend time trying to craftily get an answer out of me.

If you answer directly she won't have any reason to spend time trying to plot how to get you to remove all of her curiosity and attraction.

This doesn't mean being a **** and not answering all questions. Just answer the portion that aren't really that significant like "what kind of music do you like?". The big ones, job, other girls, ethnicity, what your plans are in life should be answered in a ****y way. After all, she'd think you were a weirdo if you grilled her about stuff like that and insisted on specific detailed answers :)
 
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