Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Of course it would be absurd to not hit it if she came running to you unless she was batsh1t crazy. But why don't you cross that bridge when you get to it? You're way overthinking this. Next you'll be planning a wedding.Giantsfan88 said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
This is what I did.She blocked me first, I waited months and months then one day I snapped and blocked her.I'm pretty sure one day she will get bored and will drop me msg thinking I was good pet dog waiting for bone and then surprise surprise ... let her feel just a bit how it feels.EvilSpirit22 said:
zorg198 said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Exactly, you're trying to trick her. As in fake it. If your plan works and she comes back to you, congrats... you haven't changed. History repeats itself.Giantsfan88 said:
Well I didn't expect you to be thrilled about it. Not sure why you hope to get banned though, an easier way is just to stop returning.Giantsfan88 said:
Why do you have to say it's finalized like a death? All I asked about what I communicated through my words.Thorninmyside said:
I'm not embracing sh1t that fvcking blows that I had to say "let me know when you wanna get together" like a fvcking phaggot and now my NC can NEVER work. I'm so tight right now.Thorninmyside said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Probably by wiping some other dude's load off her chin right now while you're starting multiple posts hoping for someone to agree with you so you can stop feeling like sh*t about what you know to be true. Phaggs don't come any phaggier than you, so good luck boss and I'll be the first to high five you and call you the man when she comes begging.Giantsfan88 said:
